Exercise - Body - Mind

Exercise - Body - Mind

Most of us think exercise is a way to get your body in shape. It's true that a healthy body begets a healthy person.The fact is that a healthy body alone won't give you a happy and healthy life. What's just as important (if not more important) is a healthy mind. 

As we age, our brain starts losing some of its power. As we age our body loses some of its power. We look at our body and say: "Shit, I'm so out of shape I need to get in the gym." What we don't say is: "Shit, I'm in the garage and I don't remember why I came here - I need to get my mind in shape."

The problem is we can see our body, but we can't see our brain. The problem is we get a yearly physical and our blood tests tell us what wrong with our body, but the vast majority of us never get our brain tested. Ninety Nine percent of family doctors are not trained on how to conduct a brain test.

What to do - what to do? My wife plays Words With Friends and Candy Crush with friends. She also keeps her mind engaged by playing crossword puzzles in the morning paper. I use my brain to write and blog. Doing creative things (anything creative) is a good way to exercise your mind. Vegging out on mindless TV does nothing to stimulate your brain cells.

Now, for those of you who are too young to give a shit about this blog, your day is coming. Believe it or not, playing games on your tablet, computer or X Box is a great way to exercise your brain. Older people should not think of it as a kid's toy. It's a real brain toy.

Hay, young people, texting does nothing to sharpen your mind. Hay, old people, texting does nothing to sharpen your mind. Yo, young people - play chess. Yo, old people play - Mah Jongg. Reading is good for both young and old. Letting your mind think: "where in the hell is this plot going," will get those synapses to wake up.

I work out my body three to four times a week. I don't have mussels, but it keeps my weight down and it's great for my cardio. Working out makes me happy because I believe it will enhance my quality of life. Most of us don't realize that working out the body is also exercising the brain.

That's right; body and brain go hand in hand. Happiness is feeling good physically and feeling good intellectually. Sooo, the next time you're naked and looking into the mirror, don't just see the facade;

See What A Beautiful Brain You Have

Holidays - Time To Value Your Life

Holidays - Time To Value Your Life

The holiday season is a joyful time. It's a time for family and friends. It's a time eat until you just can't eat any more. It's a time to make someone else happy. It's a time to hug, kiss and laugh. It's also a time to take a step back and look at your life. 

What value do you put on your life? I hope it's a lot. Do you enjoy the holidays or do you spend time saying: "I shoulda done or I coulda done. Do you surround yourself with people who love you or do you believe you're not lovable? Do you spend your time loving the holiday moment or are you thinking about how your life will be different in the New Year? If it's the latter, you need to be changing your life right now. 

Valuing your life means enjoying life.Valuing your life means you deserve a good life.Valuing your life means you let others love you.Valuing your life means you're proactive in making friends and love ones.Valuing your life means you either love yourself just the way you are or you're committed to changing what's holding you back from living the life you deserve. 

Valuing your life means you're proactive in finding happiness. 

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse

What the hell is going on? Abuse of power has been around for a long long time and I'm sure it's going on right now. However, that abuse of power has and always will involve financial abuse, employee pay abuse, corporate abuse and even government abuse. Now we're seeing the most disgusting abuse - sexual abuse.

What is with these guys (and sometimes women)? What were they thinking? How in the hell can they look at themselves in the mirror and feel good about themselves? How could they have a happy life knowing they abused another human being? I just don't get it!

I know forty/fifty years ago women were consider second class citizens. But, even back then, second class citizens were human beings. As disgusting as it is, this is not about abuse of an animal this is abuse of another human being. 

Did it make them feel more powerful? Psychiatrists say that rape is about feeling powerful over their victims and I get that they might be insane. But, these people who are committing sexual abuse are not insane (or maybe they are). The reason I don't want to give them the insane card is because that's letting them off the hook for the horrible things they did and are doing.

How does masturbating in front of a woman make you happy? How does having a women look at your penis make you happy? How does feeling up a women who doesn't want to be touched make you happy? I just don't get it!

In the seventies, women started to realize they have more power than they believed. Today, women are still not considered by many men as first class citizens, but they sure as hell know women are longer considered as second class citizens. Today, women have a voice. Today, most women will not put up with sexual abuse and call out their abuser.

Unfortunately that wasn't the case many, many years ago. Sooo, it took one woman and then another and then many more to speak out. I applaud them, but wonder why now? Is it just the words in the movie "Network" "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore" or is it the guilt of feeling that by not saying something now these abusers will continue to destroy more human lives? I believe it's both.

Should they have spoken up back then - absolutely? However, I lived back then and being abused by powerful people, who knew they could get away with it, was the way of the world. My father was abused way back then for being Jewish. GE laid him off when they didn't need him after the war. GE did the same with all the other Jews. That's abuse of power.

My father respected my mother. I was raised to respect women, but it's more than that - I just don't understand why any sane person would get pleasure out of this abuse. It makes me happy that these acts are no longer in the darkness. To the ones (and there are too many of them) who say: "they should have said something then" or  "this is about revenge" or "this is about politics" or "they're lying." I say F..K YOU!

Sooo, it's not just sexual abuse it's abuse of power and:

It Has To Stop Now

Childbirth

Childbirth

When I was in my late twenties I got a kidney stone. I was in so much pain that while my wife was driving me to the ER I was telling her where the bills and the wills were located. The pain was in two areas. The first area was the easy one - a throbbing pain in my right kidney. 

The second excruciating pain was in my groin area and it felt like my entire insides were going to burst through my groin/penis area. Some say that pain is what women feel when giving birth. If that's true, it's a wonder there are this many people on this earth because if I were a women and experienced that pain, I would never have kids again.

Which brings me to the question: "why have women evolved in a way that they have to go through this much pain to have a child?" There are many theories. The scientists say when humanoids began to walk upright the pelvic area of a woman became narrower causing the trauma through the birth canal. 

Newer studies suggest that that some earlier species of human, including Homo Erectus and even some Neanderthals, had a relatively easy time of it when it came to giving birth. They suggest that when we changed from hunters and gathers to farmers women's body shape changed in a way that pelvic area began to shrink so they could walk easier and faster. 

If the scientists are right then why haven't women evolved to avoid this problem since 830 women die from childbirth every day around the globe? Maybe in another million years evolution will solve this problem - for women's sake, I sure hope so.

Religious people believe it's God's plan for women to have this much pain through childbirth so the newborn is cherished more when it comes out. Their belief is like the old joke: "my wife hits my head with a hammer every day." A friend says: "why do you put up with that." The guy says: "the reason I put up with it is because it feels so good when she stops." 

BTW, I'm not buying the religious answer.

Sooo, I came out with my own theory. There are already too many people on this earth. If women could pop out a kid as easy as taking a good crap, the earth would be overrun with people. We are seeing less newborns today than ever before. There are many reasons for this; I'm just suggesting one of those reasons is because today women have more say about their bodies and their lives. 

Therefore, who the hell wants to go through that pain - one is enough.

Happiness Is Believing

Happiness Is Believing

Do you have a good belief system or are you skeptical of everything? In my opinion you can't be truly happy unless you believe. It all starts with believing in yourself. Believing you are a good person. Believing you will always make choices for the good not for the bad. 

Believing you will do your best to make something good out of something bad. Believing positive energy will bring back positive energy back to you. Believing that tomorrow will be better than today.

Believing in God or any other spiritual being is OK, but remember, you are putting you happiness in the hands of something you can't touch, see or hug. I prefer to put my happiness in my own hands. Maybe there is a God, but I'm not going to sit back and hope she does the right thing by me. Just the thought that my chance for a happy life is squarely in the hands of someone or something else, does NOT make me happy.

It's good to believe in family, but only if the family believes in themselves. It also good to believe in friends, but only if those friends have a positive belief system.

Believing in money, power and/or ego in lieu of believing in just yourself, is not a good prescription for happiness. We all want more money, but just because you have it or can get it doesn't guarantee you're going to use it toward your happiness.

Don't get me wrong, I rather have money than not have money, however, as my previous blogs have always stated: "I see money as freedom of choice, not just the freedom to buy shit or make others wish they had what you have."

Everyone wants to be in control of their life. However, it has been shown over and over again, having power doesn't guarantee happiness. The Mel Brook's saying: "it's good to be king" is absolutely true. On the other hand, KFK said: (I'm paraphrasing) "I don't have dress powerful because I'm already the President." He goes on to say: (again I'm paraphrasing) "the use of power for the good of all makes me happier than the ego rewards that come from me being in a powerful position.

Sooo, let me go back to my original question: "do you have a good belief system?" Do you believe you have the power to create a happy life? I feel blessed because I truly believe I have the power to make sure I stay happy. 

Oh sure, there are many things I can't control (my bad back, the horrible things that are happen on this beautiful planet, etc.). But, I can control the pain management of my back, I can refuse to see the world through a negative lens, I can believe in a better future, I can control the friends (and sometimes family) I choose to love.

Most importantly, I can control my thoughts. Where are you in this process? Do you accept that Happiness Is Believing - I sure hope so? If not, Please, pretty please, believe you can make some very risky, scary and hard to accept decisions today that will 

Start You On A Path To Happiness