Lean On Me

 Do You Remember This Song By Bill Withers:

"Lean On Me"

Sometimes in our lives
We all have pain, we all have sorrow.
But if we are wise,
We know that there's always tomorrow.

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need somebody to lean on.

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won't let show.

You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on.
I just might have a problem that you'll understand,
We all need somebody to lean on.

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need somebody to lean on

You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on.
I just might have a problem that you'll understand,
We all need somebody to lean on.

If there is a load
You have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me.

Call me if you need a friend
Call me, call me, uh-huh
Call me when you need a friend
Call me if you ever need a friend
Call me, call me

Even if you don't remember the song, the words are what we all hope for. How many times in your life you needed someone to lean on? It doesn't have to be a catastrophe, it just has to be a time (or times) in your life when things suck and someone was there for you.

If I look at my life, there were many people who I could lean on when I was down. Just to name a few:

When I was separated from my first wife and moved out, a dear friend, Juanita, was there for me. she helped me get an apartment and encouraged me to start living life again. 

After the divorce, I was a mess and felt that I was unlovable. My friends from back east, Mark and Patti, called me and said they were there for me and I should call them whenever I needed someone to talk to. They got me through a very bad time in my life.

Lastly, during my second divorce, I met the love of my life, MY Ellen. She was everything to me then and everything to me now. She is my best friend. She has proven to me that she will always be there for me. She makes me feel mighty, mighty real.

Do you have someone to lean on? If you don't, it could be a sad life. If you are someone who doesn't feel you need someone, you are living half a life. Are you the one that someone else can lean on? Your life will be enriched if you are that person. 

I am proud to say I am both. I want someone to be there for me and I want to be that person others can;

Lean On Me

What If Women Had A Dick

 What If Women Had A Dick

Somehow when evolution happened, male species developed a dick (actually, there is a female species that has a dick). Even if you don't believe in evolution, your maker also created a male with a dick and women with a pussy. Why you ask? I don't know - do you?

Sooo, what if women developed a dick and men developed a pussy? I believe the world, as we know it, might be very, very different. Below are just a few things that might be different.

Assuming, having a dick creates testosterone:

* Men would want to hug women all the time and women would just want to get laid.

* Women would probably control the world. Senior executives would be 90% women and men would be changing dippers.

* Women would be the main car driver. However, assuming having a dick makes women stubborn, now women won't know where the hell they are going and men would be yelling at them giving directions.

* Women would be playing football and in construction. Men would get dizzy looking at that woman "hunk of love" 

* Men would be getting their nails and feet manicured every week, their hair done every other week, a new handbag and shoes once month, Botox every three months while women would be complaining about how much all this costs.

* Men would no longer be allowed to fart in public.

The world is already changing. Men are already doing a lot of things women do. If this trend continues, evolution will catch up and in the future male babies will be coming out with a pussy.

Sooo, MEN hold on to your dick and your testosterone if you want to watch and play football, don't want to have babies or fart in public. 

However, Having A Pussy Might Not Be A Bad Thing - Think About It.

You Cannot Teach Life You Can Only Learn Life

 You Cannot Teach Life - You Can Only Learn Life

I'm on my way, with my friend Ivan, to see the Van Gogh Exposition on the Las Vegas strip. We're talking about our kids, when he says: "You Cannot Teach Life - You Can Only Learn Life." I asked him where he heard that saying. He said it's what he has been telling his son. I thought about it a moment, then said: "that is so smart and so right."

A French teacher doesn't really teach French, she helps you learn French. Once learned, the best way to use that learning is to go to France and talk to the people. By being there, you can learn so much about the French and their culture.

As parents we try to teach our Kids about life. We want them to be good people. We want them to be financially secure. We want them to have great relationships. We want them to be happy. The problem with all that is, nothing we say will ever teach them those things. They have go out on their own and learn those things (and many more things).

It's frustrating when they fail. It's frustrating when they make mistakes. It's frustrating when they seem unhappy. That frustration makes us want to teach them how - it just almost never works. 

"When I was your age, I did...." Well, the fact is you did... because you learned how to do... The only way your kids are going to learn how to do... is by doing... and learning from it. That learning may take learning from mistakes, failure and or going through unhappy times. My life is a testament to those facts.

It's hard to see them go through the trials and efforts of life. However, it's so interesting to see them make a life for themselves. It may not be the life you wanted for them, but, good or bad, it's their life and whatever they do with what they've learned is the life they decided to live. 

Sooo, encourage the people you love to learn from living life not from reading about life in books or teachers (including yourself) who try to teach them what life is all about.

What Makes A Job Stressful - You May Be Surprised

 What Makes A Job Stressful - You May Be Surprised?

Almost all jobs have some level of stress. BTW, most think the definition of a job is working for a public company or a person that runs his/her own company or a person that works for a private company (especially a small business). Well, what about a house spouse (especially if they have small children)? What about a consultant? What about a 1099 person that is not an employee? 

I could go on and on, but these people have the same additional stress problems that I'm about to share with you in this blog and what you can do about it.

Incremental Stressors

* A need to make money.

* A need to make more and more money.

* A need to make more and more money because the family wants to live better and have more stuff.

* A need be successful, be recognized, be respected and to feel good enough.

All of these stressors add to the normal stress of a job. Sooo, let's discuss all of them and what you can do to minimize those addition al stressors.

* A need to make money. 

This is the most stressful of my list. My dad liked his job running a very small sandwich store. However, being the only income provider and having to make enough money for us to have food on the table, made his job very stressful. What if he got sick or his back went out (I got my bad back from his DNA)? A month or more off from work would have a significant effect on the family.

I wish I had a solution for this stressor, but I don't. I feel sad for people who find themselves in that situation.

* A need to make more and more money. 

Everyone wants to have more money. That's the democratic way. However, many people are addicted to making more money. The definition of addition is you will never have enough. Whatever reason, these people will live their lives in stress and are willing to trade happiness for more money. 

The solution is seeing a therapist to figure out when enough is enough.

* A need to make more and more money because the family wants to live better and have more stuff. 

In my first marriage I lived with a wife and her family who wanted the good life at the expense of my life. That put a lot of stress on me. I grew up poor and money and more stuff was not on my agenda. I worked my ass off to give them more stuff and social status. 

The solution is simple, just say no. At that time, I wasn't able to just say no, sooo, my solution was divorce which made the stress even worse. After therapy, I became strong enough mentally to never allow anyone to dictate me to do what "they" want. If I have stress, it's to my making.

* A need be successful, be recognized, be respected and to feel good enough.

Too many people add stress to their lives by making these a need instead of a desire. Who doesn't want to have these things in their lives? My big one (based on how I grew up) is to feel good enough. However, making these a need will make you do things, that are stressful, that you wouldn't do if these were a desire.

The solution is to love yourself just as you are. The solution is to have friends and family that love you just as you are. The solution is never let the outside world determine your success, your recognition, your respect and your feeling of good enough. No matter what you have accomplished in life, you are successful, you are recognized, you are respected and you are good enough. 

If "You" Believe That, "You" Will Be Happy The Rest Of Your Life.

If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It

 If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It

I'm sure you've heard that saying before. I first heard it from my Dad. He was a don't rock the boat kind of guy. In general, I believe it's the right thing to do. However, there have been times in my life where I decided to fix it.

Let's say you have a career that pays you well, the people you work with are great, the working conditions are very good and you have a family to feed and protect.

If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It

Well, I decided to leave that great job at Xerox. Why did I do it? Not for more money. Not because they treated me badly. My problem was Xerox was a copier company and I was a computer guy. They loved me because I ran their computer department, but I wanted to learn more about computing. 

Sooo, I left Xerox and hired on with a computer company. Later I moved on and went to a software company and after that I went to a networking company. My love with the internet is still with me today.

It Wasn't Broke, But I had To Fix It

Let's say you consider playing it safe is your way of life. Most likely, you became that way because that's the environment you grew up in. That was my story. We were poor and just having food on the table was all we wanted in life. Not making major life decisions or taking risks was the safe thing to do. 

If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It

As you know from my blogs, I love life. I wanted more out of life. Although it scared the shit out of me, I made major decisions and I took risks. I could have played it safe and had an OK life. Even though I had much mental pain and some physical pain from not playing it safe, I had and have gotten a whole lot of life. My life is not just OK, it's an interesting and rewarding life that I would never have had had I played it safe.

It Wasn't Broke, But I had To Fix It

Sooo, it's OK to live by the rule "If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It." But remember, there will be times in your life where you should break that rule and say to yourself:

Even Thought It Ain't Broke, I Need To Fix It.

I Live By These Rules

  I Live By These Rules

FOR THOSE WHO ARE 60 yrs OLD AND ABOVE PLEASE READ THIS.

 

This is for you. I really like what is said here:

🚩Between 60 and death. It's time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don't just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital.

🚩Warning: This is also a bad time for investments, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

🚩Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don't feel bad spending your money on yourself. You've taken care of them for many years, and you've taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter, and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.

🚩Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well, and get your sleep. It's easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, do tests even when you're feeling well. Stay informed.

🚩Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.

🚩Don't stress over the little things. You've already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don't let the past drag you down and don't let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

🚩Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: "A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection."

🚩Be proud, both inside and out. Don't stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

🚩Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.

🚩ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You'll be surprised at what old friends you'll meet.

🚩Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideas as you, but they are the future and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday's wisdom still applies today.
Never use the phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time.

🚩Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it'll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you feel older and harder to be around.

🚩Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live by yourself.

🚩Don't abandon your hobbies. If you don't have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a kitchen garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf.

🚩Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven't seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a park. Get out there.

🚩Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are.
🚩Pains and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of life.

🚩If you've been offended by someone – forgive them. If you've offended someone-apologize. Don't drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn't matter who was right. Someone once said: "Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die." Don't take that poison. Forgive, forget, and move on with your life.

🚩Laugh. Laugh away your worries Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life.

My valued friends, enjoy peaceful life at this point in your life ...
Don't worry... be happy. 🥰

Dirty Laundry

 Dirty Laundry

"Dirty Laundry"

By Don Henley

I make my living off the evening news
Just give me something
Something I can use
People love it when you lose
They love dirty laundry

Well, I coulda been an actor
But I wound up here
I just have to look good
I don't have to be clear
Come and whisper in my ear
Give us dirty laundry

Kick 'em when they're up
Kick 'em when they're down
Kick 'em when they're up
Kick 'em when they're down


We got the bubble headed
Bleached blonde
Comes on at five
She can tell you 'bout the plane crash
With a gleam in her eye
It's interesting when people die
Give us dirty laundry

Can we film the operation
Is the head dead yet
You know the boys in the newsroom
Got a running bet
Get the widow on the set
We need dirty laundry


Kick 'em when they're up
Kick 'em when they're down
Kick 'em when they're stiff
Kick 'em all around


Dirty little secrets
Dirty little lies
We got our dirty little fingers
In everybody's pie
We love to cut you down to size
We love dirty laundry

When a movie star has a baby, we think it's nice and want to see the baby. When a movie star has a baby and it's with a guy that is not her husband, that's a whole different story. We want details. We want to know who the baby's father is. We want everything we can get on the love affair.

We want Dirty Laundry

Since Donald Trump said he will go to all lengths to stop anyone from see his tax returns, we really want to know what's in those returns. Because he is so adamant about no one see them, we assume there are things he did that are bad. We assume there will be scandal. 

We love Dirty Laundry

You see, when it's about someone we don't like or someone that thinks their shit doesn't stink, we want to:

Kick 'em when they're up
Kick 'em when they're down
Kick 'em when they're stiff
Kick 'em all around

It's our nature. It makes some of us happy. It's the reason we watch and read all the bad news. Why, because:

We love Dirty Laundry

I Love Life So Much....

 I Love Life So Much....

"I Love Life So Much that any thing, any event or any person would stop me from living the best life I deserve."  

Kenny Felderstein

"I love myself. I truly know I'm a good person. I don't lie. I wish well for everyone (except the stupid people that refuse to get their COVID shots). I give positive energy out to the universe. I let go of my ego a long time age. Therefore, I am bulletproof." 

Kenny Felderstein

"No event or person can take the life I deserve away from me because I'm bulletproof." 

Kenny Felderstein

You know the old saying: "Life sucks and then you die." Anyone that believes that has and will continue to have a horrible life. I'm not one of those people. Life has so much to offer. Even in the worst of times, life is good. What sucks is DEATH.

You can't avoid DEATH. It the natural event of life. What you can avoid is worrying about DEATH and stop living life. After going to three doctors, they all say you only have 2 years to live, what do you do? I can't speak for everyone, but I know what I would do.

After a period of grieving, I'm going to look at what I can do with the remaining years of my life. I'm going to eat all the things I've been putting off - screw that KETO diet. I'm going to write letters to the people I know best and tell them what they have meant to my life. I going to write that novel I've been putting off. I'm going to appreciate everything more. I'm going to love my Ellen even more than I love her already. I'm going etc, etc, etc.

Some of you will say: "hay, talk is cheap. If you only had 2 years to live, you would be depressed. angry and living a life of "woe is me." I say: what the hell is that going to do for me? Why let that death sentence stop me from getting all the life I have left?

Sooo, if you really love life or want to love life, the first thing you have to accomplish is to become bulletproof. If you accomplish that then nothing in this world can take that bulletproof vest from you living the life you deserve.

Sometimes the loudest person in the room is not the smartest person

 Sometimes the loudest person in the room is not the smartest person

"Sometimes the loudest person in the room is not the smartest person," Rodgers said. "Sometimes the loudest person in the room is not the person who has all the facts on their side or the truth on their side. Sometimes there's a lot of wisdom in silence. Sometimes there's a lot of wisdom in being selective on what you say."

Aaron Rodgers   Greenbay Packers future hall of fame quarterback

While reading my sports on the internet, I came across this quote. When I look back at my career, I had worked with and worked for quite a few people who used being boisterous and loud to try to convince me and others to get his or her way.

It didn't change my position on the subject, but it did overwhelm some others. It did convince a few managers and a few senior executives that this person knows what he's talking about. Many times, I would say to this person: "I'm calling bullshit." "I have the facts and you don't.

Why would a person us this tactic - because they are insecure. Being boisterous and loud is a learned experience. These people are the way they are because they grew up in an environment with family that used screaming to get their way or putting someone else down.

Many think that a quiet person is not very bright. Many think that a quiet person doesn't have an opinion. Many think that a quiet person doesn't give a dam what is being said by others. There are some that fit that description, however, in my experience there are more smart quiet people with an opinion than ones that are not.

The smartest people I know, don't yell. The smartest people I know, are not boisterous. The smartest people I know, listen. The smartest people I know, have the facts. One of the things I've learned is that these smart people get everyone's attention when they do speak. People seem to listen better when the quietest ones speak. 

I'm smart and I usually have my facts right, but I have to work hard to listen. I have to work hard to shut my mouth and wait for my time to speak. I have so much energy and so many opinions that I sometimes have trouble letting others say their peace before I chime in. I'm better than I was many years ago, but I'm still a work in progress.

Sooo, for you loud talkers,

learn from the quiet ones not from the boisterous and loud ones.

 

Stupid Is Stupid - You Can't Fix Stupid

 Stupid Is Stupid - You Can't Fix Stupid

Covid - Covid - Covid

It is so frustrating, confusing and depressing what the so-called experts say about Covid. One says you don't need a mask. One says even if your vaccinated, were a mask. One says the latest variant is going start the Pandemic all over again. One says open everything because everything will be OK. Is this not confusing and stressful - you bet it is. 

The people with a functioning brain know if you get your shots you'll be protected. You could still get Covid, but, at worse you might get Flu like symptoms and most importunely, you won't DIE.

There are three reasons people don't get their shots;

* They have medical problems that restricts them from getting the shot. These people are smart to not get the shot.

** The shot is not proven and the ones who get the shot will DIE in six months. It's been six months since I got my shots and trust me, I'm not dead. It's been well over a year since the shots have been tested and nobody has died from the shots. 

150 million Americans and many, many millions more people around the world have gotten their shots and are not dead. The people who believe they will die if they get the shot, are Stupid and as my Father always said:

Stupid Is Stupid - You Can't Fix Stupid

*** Microsoft put a chip into the shot so they and the Government can track you. Do I really have to say anything about these people???  

Forrest Gump says: "Stupid Is What Stupid Does."

Sooo, here are two ways the Pandemic can be over.

* Everyone gets vaccinated

** Heard Immunity takes effect. For those of you who don't really know what that is, Heard Immunity is when the non-vaccinated either get Covid and their immune system hold off the virus or they get Covid and DIE.

Sooo, Stupid people get vaccinated. Oh, shit I forgot;

Stupid Is Stupid - You Can't Fix Stupid 

Truth Is The Place Where The Good Ones Live

 Truth Is The Place Where The Good Ones Live

What Is Happiness

 What Is Happiness

Webster says:

Definition of happiness

1a: a state of well-being and contentment : JOY

b: a pleasurable or satisfying experienceI wish you every happiness in life.I had the happiness of seeing you

The Scientists say:

We feel joy in our bodies because of the release of dopamine and serotonin, two types of neurotransmitters in the brain. Both of these chemicals are heavily associated with happiness (in fact, people with clinical depression often have lower levels of serotonin).

Imaging studies suggest that the happiness response originates partly in the limbic cortex. Another area called the precuneus also plays a role.

BLAH  BLAH BLAH

Kenny Felderstein says:

"Happiness Is Inside You"

First, let's not confuse Happiness with Happy and/or Laughter. Happy and Laughter are a moment in time. Getting a great present on your birthday makes you feel Happy, however, that's once a year. Watching the Move "The Birdcage" makes me laugh, but how many times can I watch that movie. 

No one can be Happy all of the time. No one can Laugh all of the time. I believe two hours of Happy and/or Laughter is greater than twenty-two hours of sadness, depression or anger. Sooo, how can I find Happiness in an Unhappy world?

The answer is convincing yourself to seek Happiness. If eating spinach doesn't make you happy, don't eat it. If a person makes you Unhappy, remove that person from your life. If a bad back makes you sad, do what you can about it and find a way to live a Happy life with it.

Many of the action you take to find Happiness have consequences. Divorce has consequences. No longer talking to a relative has consequences. Leaving a job that you hate to find one that makes you Happy has consequences.

To find Happiness in life you will have to accept the consequences. To find Happiness in your life you have to want it more than staying with the things that make you Unhappy. This is your life not theirs. You are in control because:

"Happiness Is Inside You"

"RATE THIS"

 "RATE THIS"

When an Italian mobster says "RATE THIS" he's saying: "suck my big one." It's all about the "THIS" and the way it's said. "But, God Father, I love her." God Father, "LOVE THIS."

If you buy anything over the internet, a day or two later they want you to rate the transaction. Almost all websites have a five star rating. I know what a five star is and I know what a one star rating is, but what is a two to four star rating. Is a four the same as a five except one tiny little problem (like it arrived one hour late)? 

A three star is from a person who can't make up their mind. I have no idea what a two star rating is. Unless the product doesn't work at all, a one star rating is usually from a person who is unhappy and hates everything. This negative person will give a one star for the slightest little problem.

Some sites ask you to type in a heading and then a review. Thank the Universe they only let you type in so many letters in the review because the one starrers' would write a book on what they hate about the product.

"RATE THIS"

I don't know about you, but I think it's crazy to give any rating to something that's an everyday use product. Amazon wants me to rate a six pack of Colgate toothpaste. What the hell am I going to say about toothpaste. 

On the other hand, rating a humidifier, I bought, is important. When I look for a product (like a humidifier) I want to read the ratings. Nothing gets 100% five stars because every review has 2 or 3% from the negative energy people. Think about that. If 10,000 people rate a product there are 300 negative people. Multiply that by millions and millions of products and you have a lot of very unhappy people.

"RATE THIS"

It used to be that only websites asked for a rating. Now it's everyone. I went to CVS and used my CVS card so I could get coupons. When I got home and looked at my emails, there was an email from CVS asking me for a rating. Two weeks ago, I went to my Dentist. The next day I got an email from the Dentist for a rating. 

What the hell am I going to say about the Dentist, how well his office looks and how his staff treated me. He is my Dentist. Would you have a Dentist that sucks. Would have a Dentist that had a dirty office. Would you have a Dentist whose staff treats you like shit. Of course, the Dentist gets five stars.

Enough is enough already

"RATE THIS"

Are You OK

 Are You OK

How many times have you watched a movie or a TV show or even reading a book where someone gets' beat-up and left for dead? When that happens, someone always comes to the rescue and says to that person - Are You OK?

The beat-up person always responds: "I'm OK." Well, If I were that person, I would reply: Fuck no, I'm not OK - do I look OK? If you think that only happens in the movies - guess again. The other day, I hit the top of my head on my medicine cabinet. My wife was there and the first words out of her mouth was - Are You OK? Hell no, I'm not OK. My head hurts like hell and it's bleeding. 

It's not like my wife was being inconsiderate, She was just repeating what everyone I know (including her parents) says. It's just a normal reaction.

To the person who is in pain, Are You OK, seems like they don't give a shit and that makes them angry. To the person saying Are You OK, it's just their way of say I'm concerned about you. 

Sooo, when that happens to you, take a step back and appreciate that the person saying Are You OK cares a great deal about you. If you are the person saying, Are You OK, STOP IT! Just say: "that looks really bad, what can I do to help you?" Or, you can say something positive like: Well at least you're not dead.

If you think stop saying, Are You OK is easy, think again. It's a learned response. It will take many tries before you get the right words for the situation. The wrong words are;

Are You OK

Cataract

 Cataract

Written By: Kenny Felderstein
Music: To the beat of a Puff Daddy song
Sung by: Anyone reading this blog

Hay youngsters, what I'm about to tell you is stone cold
Because this is what's gonna happen when you all grow old

My knee is sore and I gotta bad back
The Doc just told me I got a big ass Cataract

I went to the basement and sat in a chair
I rocked for a few minutes wondering how I got there

That gal has a great body, I'm sure you'll agree
But I can't take advantage cause I got ED

It's been over a month till I took a big shit
Come on Metamucil this is gotta be it

Old ladies' boobs fall down you see
In just a few years my balls will be hit'n my knee

I fart a lot and I shouldn’t complain
But, my white cotton shorts have a nicotine stain 

Based on the beat, you'd think I was black
No, I'm just an old white guy with a big ass

 
Cataract

Personality

Personality

Lloyd Price sang "Personality" in 1958. Here are a few lines:

Cause you got personality

Walk (with personality)

Talk (with personality)

Smile (with personality)

Charm (with personality)

Love (with personality)

And plus you've got

A great big heart

If you want to win over that girl or boy, you gotta have Personality. If you want to be the one with your friends and family, you gotta have Personality. If you want to be the best you can be, you gotta have Personality. 

If you don't have IT, you gotta get it.

Hay! smart ass, if I Ain't got it, then how do I get it. Believe it or not, you don't have to get it because you already have it. Personality is inside you. Most of us had a great Personality when we were very young. Somehow, the difficulties of life have dragged it out of you. If so, get connected to that little kid again.

During the course of your life, you have been around a few (maybe many) people who have a great Personality. You've absorbed that person's Personality because you were probably attracted to that person. 

People like people that have a great Personality. That person's Personality is in you. Sooo, dig deep and let it out. What's the worst that can happen. For sure, you won't die and the people who love you will still love you.

Once you have it, you'll love yourself even more. 

Cause you got personality

Walk (with personality)

Talk (with personality)

Smile (with personality)

Charm (with personality)

Love (with personality)

And plus you've got A great big heart

Passion

Passion

The NFL Tampa Bay Buccaneers needed a score to cement a Super Bowl win. You could see in eyes of Tom Brady the Greatest Of All Time (GOAT) quarterback that he was going to win the game. What did I see in his eyes - Passion

As Rod Stewart says in his song "Passion" "A Lotta People Ain't Got Passion." The dictionary definition of Passion is all about love and sex. However, one line of that definition makes more sense to me: 

"Any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling."

 

 Tom Brady has a Passion for football. Even more, his Passion for winning is why he has won six Super Bowls. I have a Passion for writing. I have a Passion for mentoring people. I have a Passion for sports. I have a Passion for LIFE! 

Some people have a Passion for shopping. Some have a Passion for helping others. It doesn't matter what your Passion is - what matters is that you have Passion in your life.

Soooo, what is your Passion? If you don't, I say:

Life Without Passion Is Half A Life

Living In The Past

 Living In The Past

I look back on my past that had many ups and downs. When I speak to my friends, I always focus the conversation on the ups in my past not the downs. It's so great to laugh with my old friends about the fun and sometimes outrages times we had. It's cathartic to remember the good times. It's depressing to focus on the bad times. 

The brain has evolved to make sure we protect ourselves. Primates are always on guard to protect themselves. Therefore, our brain has been wired with negative thinking. When meeting a new person, we are cautious. When a situation comes up, our brain thinks what bad can happen to me. By design, we are not risk takers. 

I think it's nuts for a person to ride a motorcycle, do things they don't have to do, but do so because they get a thrill or do things that has a good chance to put them in a hospital. However, I enjoy watching these crazy people.

I envy risk takers. People who are willing to risk it all to do something they feel they have to do or want to do, are my heroes. I've taken my share of risks in my life, but all of them were calculated. Throwing security to the wind has never been my kind of living. On the other hand, a line I wrote in my book "Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold" was "You always want to make more right decision (risk) than wrong decision, but, no decision is the wrong decision."

For most of us it easier to be in the "known" past instead of an uncertain future. The problem with past thinkers is that the future is going to happen like it or not. The future requires us to make decisions and/or take risks. The future requires us to learn new things. Those who refuse to adjust are always left behind. "Life without some risk is half a life - Kenny Felderstein "Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold."

Sooo, look forward to the uncertain future and remember the good times of the past just:

Don't Live In The Past

Trust Me

 Trust Me

Trust me - You can trust me - What! you don't trust me - You trust her over me - If not me then who can you trust - I don't trust any of them - You said you trust me so why are you asking me all these questions - I trust you with all my heart - She is only a friend, please trust me on that.

WOW, that a lot of trust. How many times have you heard those words on TV or in the movies? Has someone you know or love said those words to you? Have you said those words to someone else?

Here's what I believe is the meaning of those words:

* You can trust me. 

When I hear those words, I immediately become suspicious. Is he saying you thinks he is not trustworthy therefore he has to tell you he is? 

* What! you don't trust me. 

This person is throwing the trust issue right back at you. This is call deflection.

* You trust her over me. 

Again deflection. Putting you on the defense. I wouldn't believe a word he is saying.

* If not me then who can you trust? 

Is she saying that everybody you know is not trustworthy? Is she believing you are so attached to her that you have to believe she is telling the truth. This happens to people who are not sure of themselves. The truth is the person you have to trust the most is yourself?

* You said you trust me so why are you asking me all these questions? 

Deflection - deflection - deflection. He knows you are asking these questions because you don't believe him and he is trying his best to not answer any of your question.

* She is only a friend, please trust me on that. 

Is he cheating on you - DUH!!!  

Trust is one of my must-haves in any person I become friends with. Trust has to be earned. Without trust, how can you count on this person? Without trust, how can believe anything that person says?

I'm telling you everything I've said above is true:

Trust Me

Not Enough Love in the World

Not Enough Love in the World

Not Enough Love in the World By 

Don Henley 

Edited By Kenny Felderstein

Sometimes I wonder where it is love goes

I don't know if even Heaven knows

The world has been standing in the shadow

Or blocking the light

We all have been trying, but could not make it right

There's just not enough love in the world

I know the outside world hurts us so bad

They don't know the damage they can do,

And it makes us so sad

How we knock each other down just like

Children on a playground

Sometimes it's so hard to smile

For the world, for the camera

And still have something left

We don't have to prove nothin' to nobody

We Just need to take good care of ourselves

The outside world is not easy to live with

I know that it's true

Like you, I'm no picnic either, and

That's one of the things that makes us blue

Time will come around when we all need to settle down

But, you and I Got to get off this merry-go-round

We all have to decide for ourselves

That loving unconditionally is the only way

If we all can just do that, it will make our day

We can't change the outside world

But, we can change who we are

Sooo, I'm asking all to start now raising the bar

There's just not enough love in the world