The Function Of Humans Is To Live Not Exist

 The Function Of Humans Is To Live Not Exist

I grew up with parents whose main goal was to exist. Grewing up in the depression with no money and no job, just getting through the day was enough for them. I wanted a lot more and believed there could be much more to life than they experienced. I loved life and it's still my priority. 

The animal world is much different. Finding food and being safe is their goal. Even the highest form of the animal world (except humans) still can't make a very interesting life for themselves. Survival, having babies and taking care of their family and their pack is their form of a life.

Sadly, in some areas of the world, humans living experience isn't much different than that of the primates. Sadly, they don't have any choices. Not just because they don't have money, it's mainly because of being oppressed with no options other than to exist.

What about us humans who live in the free world? We have so many life choices and yet some are more focused existence rather than living. Well, you might say, some only try to exist because they are poor. I don't agree.

Poor people in the free world have choices. They can work to make themselves an interesting life or they can live a life like my parents. It's their head and their heart that has to map out a full life. The ones that let life pass them bye are the ones that find life is too hard and too scary to change the things they have to change to get all the life they deserve.

It makes me crazy to see people I know not using their capabilities to do more with their life. I'm not one of those people. After my Ellen died, I could have rolled up in a ball, stopped living the fantastic life I had before she died and just give up (exist). Instead, I chose life. 

I started living my new life one month after My Ellen died. I actually lost two, so called, friends because they felt I should have given up on life until at least a year after she passed. They believe I must have not loved My Ellen. They are wrong. I loved her dearly and she will always be in my heart.

But she is gone, and I choose life. In my heart, I know she would want me to be getting as much out of life as I can. She would never want me to just exist. Ellen was special and my goal is to find someone else who is special. I can't do that by just existing. I will succeed.

What about you? Isn't there more you can do with your life? The old saying: "life sucks and then you die," is bullshit. Life is what you make of it. Yes, changing your life is scary and might not work out, but it's a hell of a lot better than accepting existence over living.

Remember:

The Function Of Humans Is To Live Not Exist

The time to relax is when you don't have time for it.

 The time to relax is when you don't have time for it.

Sydney J. Harris, journalist

My friend, Mike Bemiss, who illustrated my first book: "Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold," is a cartoonist and a very ZEN kind of guy. He sent me a few sayings, and this is one of them.

The time to relax is when you don't have time for it.

America is the best country I've ever been to and lived in. America is also the most stressful country I've ever been to and lived in. What makes America so stressful - MONEY, POWER, EGO and TIME. 

Most of Americans are running, running, running to get more Money, more Power and more Ego rewards. It's not a bad thing, but it's very stressful. Take it from me, I used to one of those Americans. Now that I have been there and done that, my life is so much less stressful.

Time also creates stress. We are all running out of time. Kids want time to pass quickly so they can be a grown-up. Everyone else wish time would stop or at least slow down. It's worse for seniors because they don't think they will have enough time to do all the things they want to do in their life.

It's really hard to relax when we're stressed and running all the time. That's why I love this quote:

"The Time To Relax Is When We Don't Have Enough Time For It"

Hay, you type "A" people - slow down. Take at least 30 minutes a day and do nothing but relax. Your brain needs that time to replenish. I believe, if you do, you will be a happier and a more productive person.

Hay, you people who keep running to get more Money, Power and Ego rewards. Take a step back and think about how much more Money do you really need to be happy? How much more Power do you really need to be happy. What's with that Ego of yours? The people who love you will love you even more without that insecure Ego of yours.

Hay, you seniors, why are you so worried about how much time you have left? You can't change it so stop stressing about it. Relax, and enjoy the time you have left. Focus on being happy today because you can't predict the future. 

The bottom line is we all have to stop running. Even though we're so busy:

"The Time To Relax Is When We Don't Have Enough Time For It"

Texting VS Talking

 Texting VS Talking

Are you a texter or a talker? I'm a talker, but this dating thing requires me to be a texter. After I can't take it anymore, I text the person to call me. I can't get to know someone via text. There is so much more you can learn from someone by talking to them.

Some of you prefer to text. It's less personal and you can stare at the words to make sure you're saying what you want to say. The younger generation has grown up with a phone in their hands. They communicate almost exclusively via text. They use short texts to tell their friends what they are doing at that moment. 

I can't judge, because I grew up in the computer days and writing, communicating and sharing was via a computer. I'm proud that my son and daughter-in-law make my grandkids communicate via talking and minimize their use of their phone. 

In my opinion, communication is critical to getting ahead in life. Losing verbal communication skills is a detriment to getting ahead in business and other parts of life. The inflection in someone's voice tells you a lot about the person you're communicating with - you just can't get that texting. It takes less time to get to know a person's personality by talking vs. texting.

On the other hand, some just talk too much. So much so that you tend to tune them out. Some interrupt the conversation all the time - you can't interrupt a text. What you see on the screen is what you get. 

Sooo, there are pros and cons regarding texting and there are pros and cons regarding talking.

You Decide

Feeling Good Is The Preview To Happiness

Feeling Good Is The Preview To Happiness

Kenny Felderstein

If you want to feel good:

Tell someone who has done you wrong - as My Ellen would say: "fuck you, you fucking asshole"

Getting a hug from a parent who has never hugged you before

Finding the right person to live out the rest of your life with (I'm still trying)

Divorce friends that prove they no longer wish you well

Pee on the boss's desk while leaving a note that reads: "I QUIT"

Tell your best friend you love him/her and they love you back

Keeping yourself in the best shape possible

Give positive energy out to the Universe

There are many things that you could do that would make you feel good. I always believe in writing things down so you can make sure it's exactly what you want to do or say. Sooo, write down everything little thing you could do that would make you feel good because:

Feeling Good Is The Preview To Happiness.

Liar Liar Pants On Fire

Liar Liar Pants On Fire

Webster says:

Definition of liar

: a person who tells lies

has a reputation as a liar

Synonyms

• fabricator, 
• fabulist, 
• fibber, 
• prevaricator, 
• storyteller

When I was a kid and another kid told a bold face lie, I would say to him: Liar Liar Pants On Fire. I have no idea what Pants On Fire means regarding lying, but it rhymed with Liar. Today, I would call a liar an asshole with no moral compass. Can you spell TRUMP or Giuliani.

There are many kinds of lies. Little white lies, lies of omission, lies to protect yourself or someone else, lies to make you look good, premeditated lies, lies because you told them so many times that you start to believe them and lies that you told months and/or years ago that you now don't have the courage to tell the truth.

For some lying is an addiction. It starts with little white lies and then you start to make bigger lies, and then you lie because you don't want to face the music and then you're so far into lying, you just can't stop (addicted).

Lying is also a moral compass issue. It's OK to lie to the Government. It's OK to lie to the insurance companies, it's OK to lie to someone you'll probably never see again. It's OK to lie to someone because you believe, they can't handle the truth. It's OK to lie to someone because the truth will make me seem insecure or a bad person. It's OK to lie because I might get in trouble if I tell the truth.

LYING is never OK. It destroys trust. It destroys your moral compass. In the long run, it will eat away at your self-worth. In the long run, it will get you in more trouble than telling the truth in the first place. It's a Band-Aid that will hurt more when you pull it off. 

Some say: I lie because I don't want to hurt someone's feelings. I'm calling bullshit. You lie because you're afraid that someone will stop liking you. Basically, you lie because your insecure. 

What's the worst that can happen if you tell the truth? Well, that's an interesting question. In Trumps and Giuliani's case it will probably get them locked up. In your case, it will make you a person who never lies. It will make you a person who is respected. It will make you a person who everyone can count on. It will make you the most trusted person in your sphere of influence. It will make you believe that: "The Truth Will Set Me Free."

When My Ellen would bring home a dress and ask me if I liked it, many times I would say yes, but if I didn't like it, I would say: "Ellen, I don't like it because it doesn't look good on you." Sometimes My Ellen would say back: "let me think about it." However, sometimes My Ellen would say: "fuck you, I like it and I'm keeping it" - of which, I would say - yes dear. Because we always told the truth to each other, it made our love for each other stronger.

As I've have always said in my blogs and to the people I interact with, I DON'T LIE. However, it's very hard to do that all the time. But I would not love myself as much as I do, if I became a liar. Sooo, for those of you who think it's OK to lie, my response is:

Liar Liar Pants On Fire

Is Love What You Want The Most

 Is Love What You Want The Most

Who doesn't want love? Believe it or not, many people. I wrote a blog regarding my definition of Love:

* Ellen, knowing that I have a bad back, always gives me the most conferrable place to be on the sofa even those she has a not-so-great back herself.

* Last week we purchased a small whiteboard to hang in the kitchen. The main purpose is to write down our shopping list. The first night, when she was in bed, I wrote on the board: "I LUB YOU." In case you don't know what LUB is, It's my highest definition of LOVE. It's LOVE times 10. 

The next morning, when she came into the kitchen, she had a smile on her face that made me very happy. Then, the next morning I came into the kitchen there were the words: "I LUB YOU MORE." That made me feel LOVED.

* When our dog ZITA was alive, she would wait for us at the door. When we came in, she would run to us and hug and kiss us. You could see the LOVE in her eyes.

Before we came into the house, we looked forward to seeing her so much she could see the LOVE in our eyes.

 * We LOVE our cousins and dear friends so much that when they have troubles, we hurt inside. When they are really happy, we feel even more LOVE of them.

You see, LOVE can't be defined by words. Saying: I LOVE YOU," is great and you should do it as often as possible, but the words are meaningless unless your actions truly show your Love

Many people are in a loveless marriage. Many people are with someone only for companionship. Many people are with someone for financial reasons. Many people stay with a spouse because they think the kids will suffer. Trust me, those people are not happy.

How many people are seeking Love? In today's society, not enough. Some go through life never getting the love they deserve. Some are looking for hook-ups not feelings of love. Some are looking for a sugar daddy or a rich woman not someone who gives them my definition of Love. Some have so heavy a heart that they can't let love in. Some just don't give a shit.

I had my Love, but for me it's not over. I know what a loving relationship is all about. I know the joy of being in love. I know how happy it makes me to have someone that loves me back. I also had relationships where there was no love - was I happy - HELL NO!

I divorced twice to find Love. I got it right the third time. Now I'm searching again and I'm not going to stop searching until I get the Love I deserve. What about YOU?

Being loved is a wonderful feeling. Don't just wait for it to come. Go after it - no I say, demand it. If you're just going through the motions, or for the life of me I can't understand, you don't want it. Or you don't believe you'll ever get it:

Get A Dog - He Or She Will Love You Unconditionally.