Sunday, March 29, 2026

Rags To Riches

 Rags To Riches

Poor people are happier than rich people. This is a myth I grew up with. I guess that myth was stated because poor people wanted to feel better about themselves. I never heard rich people say that, but I didn't know any rich people. 

Many movies have a rags to riches theme. The usual plot is that after becoming rich the poor person does not become happier. In some movies just the opposite becomes true. In the movie "Trading Places" the rich guy loses everything, becomes miserable and then get it all back and becomes even happier than he was when he was rich - only in the movies!

Of course, all of this is just fantasy. Given the choice, who would vote to be poor over being rich? It sucks to be poor. Life is much harder when you're poor. Life choices are much more difficult when you're poor. Rich people have a lot more going for them than poor people. Financial security is important to everyone. Living a life without financial security is scary.

Sooo, are rich people happier than poor people? The answer to that question is - it depends. If you've never been poor, how would you know the answer. How a poor person describes happiness is probably different than how a rich person describes happiness. Going from rags to riches depends on what a person decides to do with their new found wealth. Also, how a poor person describes rich might be different than how a rich person describes rich.

I believe there is something to be said for growing up poor and deciding what to do when you wind up with more money you thought you would ever have. Me personally, if I hit the lottery for many, many millions, my first thought would not be what new car I would buy, but what family/friend I would help out. 

However, that being said, I have financial security in my life and only make decisions with my money that makes me happy. Who knows what I would spend my money on if I was dirt poor. In my first book, I wrote a line that stated, "at ten I was poor, but I was having fun." Today, reading about the struggles of really poor people, I realize I was never poor. 

Yes, we didn't have much money, but we did have food to eat, air to breathe and shelter. Now I realize, there are many people who don't have enough food to eat and shelter. Rich to them is more about security than happiness. I can't even imagine what those people would do if they went from rags to riches. I can't even imagine what they would consider happiness.

As I always ask, "what about you?" Are you poor or rich? How do you define poor vs. rich? Are you happy with what you have? Would you be happier if you had more? What would you do if you had more? 

Money is not the root of all evil. Money is all about choices. Nobody reading my blogs are really poor so It's important to think about if you are making the right choices. If your choices are making yourself and or others happier, those are the right choices. 


Thursday, March 26, 2026

Pain

Pain

When we think about pain we usually refer to physical pain. However, there are other kinds of pain. Emotional, mental, psychological just to name three. I have run the gambit on all kinds of pain.

I've had a bad back since my early twenties. This year alone, I've had three procedures to help with the toothache that goes down my left leg. I've had emotional pain losing my dad to Parkinson's disease and losing My Ellen unexpectedly. The worst pain I've ever had was the mental and phycological pain from my second divorce.

Each and every time I've gotten on the right side of my pain. Want to know how? Well, A  little help from my friends, loved ones, Bob. and a strong desire to love life. 

The toothache in my left leg gets a little better after each procedure. However, I've accepted that pain is my way of life. I'm in a positive emotional groove because of My Joyce. My mental and phycological well being is great because of my family and friends. Nobody is pressing my buttons because I got rid of all my buttons. BTW, I'm doing all this without the help of drugs.

My pain doctor always asks me, " from a scale of one to ten, what is your pain level." Sooo, I'm asking you the same question. Is physical pain, emotional pain mental pain and/or phycological pain getting you down? Is any kind of pain you have impacting your happiness? 

If the answer is no, you are one of the very few. If the answer is yes, I can only give you my suggestion;

Love Life So Much That You Are Willing To Say To Yourself - Fu.k That Pain.



Tuesday, March 24, 2026

All You Need Is Love

All You Need Is Love

Everybody knows the song, All You Need Is Love by the Beatles.


There's nothing you can do that can't be done
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy

Nothing you can make that can't be made
No one you can save that can't be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It's easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Nothing you can know that isn't known
Nothing you can see that isn't shown
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be
It's easy

All you need is love

I am someone who has lots of love in my life. Wife, family and friends have love for me. The most important part is that I have love for myself. Having all that love makes it easy for me to love back. 

I was brought up with love. Mom, Dad and friends all loved me and I loved them back. I had a few bumpy years where I felt unloved by others, but loving myself got me through the worst of times.

Some people love themselves, but don't love others the way they love themselves. Some people don't have love for anybody. I can only assume that those people don't love life. Some people show their love in different ways. Those people are sometimes misunderstood.

I feel bad for some who have not grown up with love. I can understand why they have many barriers. My dad didn't grow up with love in his life and therefore had lots of barriers. It was hard for him to give physical love (like a hug), but I could see his love for me in his eyes.

I believe the more you love, the more love you'll get back. It's hard, but letting down your barriers, will allow others to love you even more. I believe in loving people even though you might not get the love you hope for and deserve, back.

These are hard times. Hard times are when you need to put as much love you can into your heart. Hard times are when you need to love others as much as you can. I promise if you do as I suggest, you will have lots of love in your life.

Remember, to be a happy person All You Need Is Love.

Tuesday, March 17, 2026

Don't Let This War Get You Down

 Don't Let This War Get You Down

I know a few people who are really happy we've gone to war with Iran. I also know many people who are upset we've gone to war with Iran. Personally, I'm confused.

Iran's leadership (not the majority of it's people), are radical people. They are a threat to not only Israel, but the United States and any other country that supports Israel. The world should never let them have nuclear weapons.

Our current administration got out of the nuclear treaty with Iran. I believe they did so because Israel was concerned Iran would cheat and find a way to make nuclear weapons even though the treaty required inspections.

Maybe Israel is right. And if so, they have a legitimate reason to do what ever it takes to prevent Iran from getting those weapons. This administration stated America got into this war because Israel was going to war with Iran. That does not make sense to me.

Sooo, to be clear, in my opinion this is Israel's war not America's war. Sooo, even though I agree Iran are bad guys, why not let Israel take out their nuclear threat. I would love Israel to win, but what's it my business? That's why I'm confused.

For those people who are unhappy we are in this war (including me), Don't Let This War Get You Down. Don't try to persuade the war happy people we should end this war. It will only make you more frustrated. 

Stop talking with like minded people about this war because negative energy will only bring more negative energy. Stop listening to war reports, because none of it will be good news. I always keep my focus on the wonderful life I have. With the years I have left, I'm not going to let bad news take away my happiness.

This war WILL end!! Soooo, Don't Let it Get You Down. 


Sunday, March 8, 2026

Death-What Is It Good For-Absolutely Nothing

 Death-What Is It Good For-Absolutely Nothing

No one dies of old age. If we're lucky to live very, very long, we die of something. The heart gives out, the kidneys give out, the lungs give out etc.. Sooo, let's face it, we are all going to die. 

Why do we die. The scientists say our cells break down. They can't reproduce like they did when we were younger. Their internal mechanisms fall apart. In cancer just the opposite happens. The cells multiply faster than they should causing tumors.

Scientists are working on how to slow the aging process. They're getting closer every day. What if they succeed? Well, if it gives us a few more years, that would be a good thing. If they give us hundreds of years, that would be a bad thing.

Could you imagine living hundreds of years. First, all the worlds resources would be depleted. You'll run out of money or at least the financial system would break down. You would run out of things to do with yourself. Sooo, although we don't like it, dying is not only a good thing, it's a necessary thing.

I'm 81. I've had open heart surgery. I have blood cancer. Yea, both are under control, but I'm not naive, I'm on the other side of this life. Sooo, why am I not concerned? It's my wonderful life. 

These years I've been living have been fabulous. I'm in love with my wife. I have friends that care about me. I have the financial ability to travel, eat good food, and live in a wonderful house. I don't want for anything. Sooo, if it all ended tomorrow, I would die with a smile on my face. 

For these reasons, I don't fear death. I care about the impact on my wonderful wife, but last years health events, got me to accept the inevitable. More than ever, I'm looking forward to each day's new adventures. Joyce and I have travel plans in the future. I think about that not if I'll be alive to go.

What about you? Do you think about dying? Do you fear death? Do you make decisions based on possibly dying in the future? Think about or maybe don't think about it. Because;

"Death-What Is It Good For-Absolutely Nothing"


Sunday, March 1, 2026

Pessimist vs Optimist

 Pessimist vs Optimist

The book I'm reading has a line, "just because a ship is sailing in still waters, doesn't mean it's headed toward an iceberg."  That line reminded me of an old joke my father told me.

"Two kids come home from school when they see a lot of horse shit on the living room floor. One kid says, "when Dad comes home he is going to blame me." The other kid says, "I think dad bought us a pony."

Living a life as a pessimist is bad for your happiness and your health. Living life as an optimist is much better and will minimize your stress. However, to the extreme, both can be bad. There is nothing wrong with looking over your shoulder. It's ok to not take everything at face value. It's ok to consider what could go wrong. It's not ok to think everyone is out to get you or something will always go wrong.

On the other hand, It's not ok to believe everything will be perfect. Being a total optimist won't let you see a crash coming at you. Being a total optimist won't help you plan for a "what if."

My dad was a pessimist. Who could blame him growing up through the depression years. My mom was a cock-eyed optimist. Probably why they got along. I was more pessimist growing up, but that changed when I became more secure within myself. It's hard to be an optimist when you're insecure.

Sooo, who are you? A more balanced life is a happy life. Extreme pessimist vs optimist life is an unhappy life.