Lyin Is Lyin

Lyin Is Lyin

There are many kinds of lyin. Little white lies, bold face lyin and lyin by omission. However, as my father would say: Lyin is lyin." 

Lyin on your taxes is lyin. Lyin on a test is lyin. Lyin to get out of trouble is lyin. lyin on a business deal is lyin. Lyin to the ones you love is mondo lyin. Lyin to anyone to get more money is lyin even if you believe they can afford it. Lyin so you don't hurt another person's feelings is lyin. Lyin because you don't think the others can handle the truth is lyin. Lyin to protect someone else from a bad situation (even if it might get them out of jail) is still lyin.

I could go on and on, but you get my point. However, most people don't think telling some lies are bad. The IRS can afford giving me more money than I deserve so a little lyin is OK. Also, why not lie to the IRS - everybody else is doing it.

This kind of thinking is destructive to both the people you're lyin to and yourself. The IRS can't afford it because the Government is funded on the backs of all of us. The bigger the lie the larger the tax increases. Who pays the most for your little white lie? It's the people who least can afford it. Sooo, if you knew you were taking food out of the mouth of a middle class family, would you still be lyin? You don't need those few extra dollars.

Lyin is a big problem for you (unless you're a psychopath).  Every lie, big or small, eats away at your inter-being. Each lie is a bite out of your inter-security. People who lie most of the time are insecure and don't like themselves. People who lie a lot are not happy people. People who lie a lot will eventually lose something that is so precious to every human being - trust and respect.

Lying because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings is bullshit because it's not about them it's about you. You don't lie to make them feel better. You lie because you're afraid they won't like you anymore. You lie because you're insecure. You lie because the truth sometimes hurts and you never want to be the person who hurts anybody. 

The problem is lyin is not giving you the results you wanted. In many situations just the opposite happens. Getting caught in a lie hurts the other person more than telling them the truth. You're supposed to be their friend. Getting caught in a lie destroys the trust and respect your friend had in you. It's like saying to your friend: "you're not smart enough to know I'm lyin about your big fat ass."

What's wrong with telling the truth? What's the worst that can happen? The people you're lyin to will still love you if you tell them the truth. You will love yourself more if you tell the truth. 

Lyin to get out of jail or to prevent you from losing your job rarely works. When they find out the truth you will be treated worse than if you told the truth the first time. I'm not talking about murders or bank robbers. Those people don't belong in our society anyway and they rarely get away with it in the long run.  Can you spell Madoff?  

Sooo, if you want to be happy for the rest of your life don't lie. Don't make little white lies, don't make bold face lies and don't lie by omission. A lyin son of a bitch is just that - a son of a bitch. Trust and be secure inside yourself to tell the truth. Don't let lyin eat away at your soul and your happiness. Telling the truth WILL make you proud of yourself. 

The bottom line is:

I'd Be Lyin if I didn't believe Lyin Is Lyin.

Maturity

Maturity 

One of the things I've learned through my seventy years of living is that maturity can happen at any time. I don't believe I reached my highest level of maturity until forty. My youngest son didn't reach his highest level of maturity until his late thirties. The problem is that reaching maturity is not like a light bulb going on. It happens slowly.

Compared to other ten year old kids, I was very mature. I had to be because I had to help my family pay the bills. I always joked that at thirteen I had a father and son talk with my father - I played the role of father.

Then I found myself married with two children and a management job at Xerox Corporation. I had to "man-up in a hurry. However, inside I was far from mature. I knew my way in business, but I had no idea what I needed to do to mature socially. 

I was insecure. I overreacted to situations that weren't as bad as I made them out to be. I didn't have control of my temper. When someone disagreed with me, I defended my position instead of listening to what the other person was saying.  I was the dog who wouldn't let go of the bone.

As the years went by I became more secure and was able to take criticism and learn from it. If I didn't agree, I stopped defending myself to the death. I just told the other person: "I appreciate your opinion, but I'm going to stay with my decision." 

Getting more maturity helped me become calmer and enabled me to see the social world differently. I would never have been able to marry my love Ellen if I hadn't reached my current level of maturity. I still revert back to my old bad habits, but those times are few and I have no problem saying: "I'm sorry for being a jerk."  

The one thing I learned is that age has nothing to do with maturity. I also learned you go through different levels of maturity throughout your life. Some never reach maturity. Some believe they don't want to get to maturity. Screw being a productive person. I like being a flake. If I get mature, I believe I will feel old. I want to stay young.

This attitude is bullshit. Maturity has nothing to do with being young or old. Feeling young is something inside you. I'm seventy and when I look into the mirror, I ask myself: "who is that old guy in the mirror. I still see myself as a teenage Kenny from South Philly. Maturity has help me to stay young not make me feel older.


Sooo, where are you on the maturity scale. Are you so immature that life is still a struggle? Are you overly mature that you feel old? The best way to judge your situation is am I happy. Being mature should make you happier than being immature. I have found that very immature people aren't as happy. They put on this happy facade, but deep down their still scared little kids.

Mature people have a more solid life and have more control of their happiness. Having control of your happiness should be everyone's goal. Therefore, knowing you're a productive person, knowing you're a person people can count on and knowing where you're going with your life will give you the most important thing in your life:

"Having Control Of Your Happiness"

Monsters

Monsters

Growing up, instead of being afraid of monsters I loved them. Movies that had monsters in them were my favorite. Today, the biggest box office movies have monsters in them. However, today we also have monsters around the world.

Today, Egypt reported that 21 people were beheaded by the monsters called ISIL. It seems to me that be-headings strike a nerve with many people around the world. I'm not sure why? Hitler was a monster and he never be-headed anybody. In my opinion what he did was worse.

Hitler would make the Jews dig long trenches and then have them kneel down in front of the trenches while his guards shot them to death. I'd call that monstrous. Hitler had Jews huddle in a room and slowly gas them to death. I'd call that really monstrous. 

In Africa, the warlords not only beat and shot people to death, they would cut of their limbs allowing them to live as cripples. As cripples, these people couldn't care for themselves and would not last long on this earth. In my opinion, that might be the most monstrous of all.

Sooo, let's not get to depressed about these crazy monstrous Terrorists cutting off people's heads.  They would be just as monstrous if all they did was shoot these poor people. 

What makes a great monster in movies are the ones that don't value life. Not just the people they kill, but even their own life. These movie monsters are so evil we cheer when the good guys finely find a way to destroy them (which usually doesn't happen until the last fifteen minutes of the movie).

ISIL Terrorists are no different than movie monsters. They don't value the life of others and they don't value their own life. They are just as happy to kill as be killed. It's that lack of loving life that makes them so evil. 

Hitler was a monster, but at least he valued his own life. These evil Terrorists believe this life is not something they want. They believe their life after death is the one they want. I sometimes wonder if somehow we could convince them that there isn't anything after this life would they be so monstrous?

Sooo, what should all of us get out of this blog? One, like the movies, we will cheer when these evil monsters are eradicated. However, just like the movies, when we get rid of these monsters, more monsters will show up. 

Two, stop believing there is a better life after this one. Forget what your parents, your church, your organization, etc. tells you - live your life NOW because you have no proof that life after this one is better. The people who want you to believe in faith are the ones who can't prove shit about the afterlife.

Third, don't get yourself too upset about these monster ISIL Terrorists. They want us to believe they are more evil than the movie monsters because they kill people by cutting off their heads or burn them in a cage. Like the movies, they are just monsters, who are going to be eliminated fifteen minutes before the movie is over, and when they die,

They Are Not Going To A Better Place

I've Got A Feeling - Redux

I've Got A Feeling - Redux


If you watched the President last night or read the paper today, Obama asked Congress to allow him to send in troops to fight the terrorist organization ISIL. Congress is now thinking about it. Back in September I wrote a blog called "I've Got A Feeling." I'm resending that blog because I get no pleasure about being right regarding this subject.

I've Got A Feeling   

I've got a feeling that the United States military is conditioning us for an Iraqi type war. You need three things to go to war in America. First, you have to scare the shit out of Americans by telling them the enemy is going to destroy our American way of life. The Islamic State terrorists (ISIL) are helping our military do so by graphically showing the beheading and burning of innocent people.

Second, the military has to convince Americans that the only way to stop the people who are going to destroy America is via war. Key generals in the military today and previous military generals are already saying we have to destroy ISIL and the only way to do so is to have American boots on the ground.

Third, you have to start and end the war with military volunteers. The mistake the military made in the Vietnam War was the draft. The military and the politicians convinced us the Vietnamese were capable of destroying our way of life if we did not stop them. However, after years of war the young kids who were being or going to be drafted shouted BULLSHIT! 

It was those kids that ended the war not the military or the politicians. They risked being put in jail by protesting the war. They risked being shot and killed by protesting the war. They risked losing their American citizenship by going to Canada and other countries. Their voice became so loud the military and the politicians had to say "UNCLE." 

The Iraq war started when we convinced the American people that the Iraqis had weapons of mass destruction. That scared the shit out of most of us. The military also convinced us that the only way to destroy the baddies was with boots on the ground. Lastly, the military only used men and women who volunteered to fight (no draft). 

Well, we all know now what a bad idea that was. The basic premise (weapons of mass destruction) was BULLSHIT and what did we accomplish - ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! The American people don't like or want war. President Obama will try his best to not go to war. However, I've got a feeling.


I've got a feeling that tonight's going to be a good night. My wife and I are going to our local bar and meet up with our friends. We will laugh out loud, dance our asses off to the fabulous singer and eat happy hour food that is specifically created to raise our cholesterol and take us to an inch away from having a heart attack.

After the bar, my wife and I are going to go home and make love like we did twenty five years ago. Yes, I've go a feeling that tonight's going to be a good night - tonight's going to be a good night - yes, tonight's going to be a good, good night - I've got a feeling.

 
I've got a feeling that marijuana is going to be legal in ninety percent of the states within ten years. It started with alcohol being banned. That ban was created by religious people, politicians and gangsters that didn't want to pay taxes or have competition. The reason prohibition stopped was because the gangsters were winning, more people were becoming alcoholics then before prohibition and the states needed the taxes.

The ban on marijuana is taking the same course. It was created by religious people, politicians who were convinced that everyone would get high and destroy our economy and gangsters that didn't want to pay taxes or have competition. There was one major problem with marijuana that wasn't a problem with prohibition. The drug companies, the cigarette companies and the alcohol companies are not sure how to make money selling Pot. 



Alcohol is hard to make. Even beer is a pain in the ass to make and so cheap it's just not worth it. Marijuana is a weed. Just get some great seeds, put them in some good soil where there is excellent sunlight and water them a few times a week. In a few months you'll have enough Pot to last you for years. How the hell can these companies make money on that?



The state's first decision was to allow stores to sell medical marijuana and collect taxes. Well, we all know that's bullshit. Anyone can get a prescription for marijuana. I've got a feeling the next step will be to stop policing marijuana (which doesn't work and costs the states too much money) and encourage the drug companies and the cigarette companies, etc. to produce and sell Pot. That way everyone wins.

The gangsters will lose their revenue stream. The companies will make money (who wouldn't buy a few joints for a dollar instead of trying to grow the stuff at home), the states will collect the taxes they desperately need and the police plus the Feds can concentrate on real crime. 

The end result will be the same as what happened after prohibition. No more people will be getting high than today. The rules for kids will be the same as for alcohol. Parents have the responsibility to educate their kids and make sure they don't do stuff they shouldn't be doing.

For the few who choose to get high (I'm not one of them), 

I've Got A Feeling that tonight's going to be a good night - tonight's going to be a good night - yes, tonight's going to be a good, good night.

 

 

She's So Fine There's No Telling Where The Money Went

She's So Fine There's No Telling Where The Money Went

"She's So Fine There's No Telling Where The Money Went" is a line in the song "Simply Irresistible" by Robert Palmer. Everybody seems to interpret that line differently. My interpretation is, the many men I've known who have lost a lot of money on women were because they only saw the facade of a woman instead of seeing the soul of a woman.

Just so you know, in this day and age, women have the same problem. In the olden days women looked for a guy they believed would be a good provider and a good father. Today, women have more money and power. Because of that, many of today's women look at the eye candy just like the men do.

Some men take advantage of those women just as some women take advantage of those superficial horny men. 

In the years I was single, I was one of those horny men. I dated an Ex-Penthouse centerfold that had a great body, but not much inside. Everything she asked for I gave her because I was so mesmerized by her looks and body. I spent money I didn't have to make her (and me) happy.

Also, in defense of her situation, she didn't have much to offer mentally. In many ways she was a victim of her body. The jobs she was able to get after Penthouse were waitress and secretarial work. Those are honorable jobs, but back then men would hit on her all the time. Today we call that sexual harassment. It always got so bad for her she had to quit those jobs.

After a few months I realized I needed more from a woman than just a great face and body. When I stopped seeing her, I kind of felt sorry for her because she was a nice person entrapped in a great body. I truly believe she would have been a happier person if she didn't look so fabulous.

I don't know how many of you men and women have had a similar experience or are involved in that kind of relationship currently? It just seems to me that most powerful men and women have a partner who has a beautiful face and body. It just seems to me most famous men and women have a partner who has a beautiful face and body.

I'm not saying (as the old song goes): "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life make an ugly woman your wife." You can have both - like me. The issue is what do you look for first?

It takes one second to fall for a great body. However, it takes weeks, maybe months, to fall for a great brain, heart, attitude and soul. Therefore, if you really want to be happy for the rest of your life, take the time it takes to make sure the person you want to fall for has the goods inside before you get horny for the outside.

Sooo, if you do as I suggest you'll be happy giving some (not all) of your money to that someone who you can honestly say:

She Or He Is So Fine (both inside and outside) There's No Telling Where The Money Went

Kissing

Kissing

A kiss is the touch or pressing of one's lips against another person or an object.

Cultural connotations of kissing vary widely. Depending on the culture and context, a kiss can express sentiments of love,passion, romance, sexual attraction, sexual activity, sexual arousal, affection, respect, greeting, friendship, peace and good luck, among many others. The word came from Old English cyssan (“to kiss”).

Anthropologists are divided into two schools on the origins of kissing, one believing that it is instinctual and intuitive and the other that it evolved from what is known as kiss feeding, a process used by mothers to feed their infants by passing chewed food to their babies' mouths.

The earliest reference to kissing-like behavior comes from the Vedas, Sanskrit scriptures that informed Hinduism, Buddhism and the Jain religion, around 3,500 years ago. Around half a century later, affectionate mouth-to-mouth kissing was first described in the Hindu epic, the “Mahabharata”.

Academics who have studied it say kissing spread slowly to other parts of the world after Alexander the Great and his army conquered parts of Punjab in northern India in 326 B.C.

The Romans helped to spread the habit to most of Europe and north Africa. The Romans were passionate about kissing and talked about several types of kissing. Kissing the hand or cheek was called a baseum. Kissing on the lips with mouth closed was called an osculum, which was used between relatives. A kiss of passion was called a saveum.


I love hugging and kissing. It makes me happy. In my day, sexual kissing was called making-out. The young adults of today call it hooking-up. The differences between the two are, making-out is all about kissing, hooking-up is more about intercourse than kissing. I hope the kids of today are doing as much kissing as we did in my youth. It would be a shame if the act of kissing went away in the future.

In my day sexual kissing was foreplay. It sometimes lead to intercourse, but most of the time it didn't. I can't speak for women, but I had a lot of sticky underwear when I was a teenager.

Today, I believe most young adults (and a lot of teenagers) go from kissing to intercourse in just a few minutes. In the fifties women didn't have many of the protections they have today. We were very concerned about getting pregnant. Sooo, we kissed much more than we screwed.

I don't have a problem with young people having protected sex because if you read my blog called "SEX," you know my position is that SEX is FUN. I would have saved a lot of underwear and would have been much less frustrated if kissing lead to intercourse in my day. 

However, speaking out of both sides of my mouth, kissing was really great in the olden days. We would sometimes kiss for a hour. It was very passionate and intimate. My body tingled all over kissing a great kisser. Even at seventy, I love making-out with my wife. She's a great kisser and she still makes me tingle. 

I love the way the French kiss on both sides of the cheek as a statement of affection. I hate a dispassionate kiss as in "love ya - mean it." Whatever reason you're kissing someone it should "mean it." That side cheek kiss where someone places their cheek next to your cheek and kisses the air really pisses me off. 

I'm not big on kissing a hand. Kissing a ring - what the hell is that all about? Is that like saying to someone (even if it's the Pope) "I'm inferior to you?" Is that like saying: "I'm not worthy?" People believe kissing a ring is a sign of respect, but any time you think less of yourself you're putting negative energy into your body. Thinking less of yourself to another individual will never make you a happy person.

I love kissing my dog. When she kisses me back I feel sooo loved. There is something great about getting hugged and kissed by a child or an animal. When anyone gives you unconditional love it's a fabulous feeling.

Sooo, let's all start kissing more. Intercourse is a lot of fun, but before you get to that point, try kissing for an hour. OK, at our age that's not realistic, but at least five minutes is realistic.

Passionate kissing will give you back that tingle you had as a teenager

I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

The NFL Tom Brady and Coach Belichick cheated by taking out the air in their footballs - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

The Vietnam War was necessary to preserve America's way of life - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

Police kill innocent black people all the time - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

Terrorists are going to destroy America - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

Iran is going to get a nuclear weapon and destroy Israel - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV


Am I the only one who knows that a high percentage of what we see on TV is bullshit. Why is most of the bullshit about negative subjects? Why can't the media wait until they know the full truth before they put it on TV? It's simple, if the real truth turns out to be nothing interesting they believe we won't watch it. 

Saddam Hussein didn't have weapons of mass destruction (WMDs), but he did have control of a lot of oil. At the time of the Iraq war the Western Countries were concerned about not having enough oil to fuel our growth. We knew, even if Hussein had WMDs what could he do with it? Blow up the world - I don't think so.

However, the media wouldn't get a boost in news if it was only about oil. Could you imagine "Iraq has oil America wants - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV. That wouldn't get many people to watch NBC because everybody knows America wanted more oil.


What if Iran gets a nuclear weapon? Are they going to blow up Israel creating a nuclear cloud that will kill the people from many Arab states including their partner Hezbollah and Syria? Even if they did, in about two minutes after launch, the Western countries would destroy Iran. 

If you think I'm talking out of my ass then why didn't Russia use its WMDs against Europe or America during the cold war? The answer is the same reason Iran won't use their nuclear weapons. I'm not saying we shouldn't try to convince Iran to stop creating a nuclear weapon because they might give some crazy group the capability (some say they are already doing that today). However, blowing up their current capability as Israel wants to do is not a good strategy. Heavy sanctions might work, but it may also force Iran to go to war with our friends. 

When people get hungry (because of our sanctions) they will do horrible things to get out of their plight. Hitler was put into power on the promise he would make things better for the German people. He did so by finding a scapegoat to blame (the Jews) and going to war with the rest of the world. Many Germans did get a significant improvement in their lives and because of that many ignored the atrocities that Hitler created. 

Forcing Iran to go to war by sanctions or a military strike is not the solution. Russia has WMDs, North Korea has WMDs, China has WMDs, Pakistan has WMDs. Israel has WMDs. Nobody is shooting them off because history has shown the world what disaster happened when we used and atomic weapon. A nuclear weapon is many, many, many times more destructive.

Sooo, what if the media said: "Iran might get a nuclear weapon, but they won't use it - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV. That wouldn't get many viewers to watch ABC. Doom and Gloom is a story. The real truth just isn't that interesting. Many of you probable think I'm too left wing because I'm suggesting that if the talks with Iran fail, stand back, let them get a nuclear weapon and see what happens next. 

We have stood back and watched all the other countries with WMDs. Why is Iran so much different? North Korea and Pakistan make me more uneasy that Iran. Also, I'm sure America and the other Western Countries already have a way of destroying any threat from these countries. Because I live in a positive energy world, maybe, just maybe, once Iran has a nuclear weapon and feel safer from the West, they might even choose to help their economy by doing business with the West.

I'm not being naive. I truly believe more sanctions and/or blowing them up will guarantee they will become a threat. I also truly believe that letting them live with a WMD will have much less of a negative impact than what I'm seeing on TV. I predict the media will say; "Iran has agreed to work with the West" - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV.

Now on the lighter side, who gives a shit about a deflated football? The media is making it sound like the Patriots have destroyed football because their balls have 2PSI less than standard. I only wish my balls had 2PSI less. In the final analysis, nothing bad happened to the NFL and at worst, the NFL might find out a minimum wage ball guy made a mistake.

But, oh no, the TV loves this story and has been milking it for two weeks. Maybe NBC thinks that more people will watch the Super Bowl because of "deflategate." What if the media started this by saying: "the deflated balls had nothing to do with the outcome of the game and most probably some Ball Boy made a mistake." I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV. The publicity would have ended that day and the media would have to find some other NEGATIVE programing to keep people watching.

"The Vietnam War was necessary to preserve America's way of life" - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

"Police kill innocent black people all the time" - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

"Terrorists are going to destroy America" - I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV

I'm calling bullshit to all of that. Vietnam was never a threat to America. We were just concerned it would make China stronger. We got in like we did in Iraq, thinking it will all be over in a few months. Remember the shock and awe bullshit. Well the truth was that once we got in we need to win just to save face. We all know how that bullshit idea worked out.

Police are not sitting in their room figuring out how many Blacks they can kill today. Guns in America are out of control. Too many people have them. The Police know this and are powerless to stop it. Being a Police Person is a scary job. Police are just people like us. Some can contain their fears some cannot. If a burglar came into your house at midnight and you had a gun, would you fire if they came toward you even if he didn't have a gun? Some would and some wouldn't. That's what Police deal with every day. 

The Police are not out to get us. They are trying to protect us, but, they are human so they are also trying to protect themselves. A tiny few overact and do something they shouldn't do. They are a very, very small minority. 

The media needs to get all the facts right before they put negative bullshit out on the airwaves. What the TV did accomplish was a riot. What the TV did accomplish was to make Black people feel inferior. What the TV did accomplish was to show there are uneducated and miss-informed Black thugs in this country. What the TV didn't explain was that Police have a very difficult job, Black people are not inferior and that Black thugs are a tiny, tiny, tiny minority of the rest of the Black population.

The last one is that Terrorists will destroy America. The media makes us feel that there are thousands of millions of Terrorists around the world. It's bullshit. The media makes you think they are taking over countries like Hitler did. The media makes us think America is next. Again, all of that is bullshit. 

If you add them all up there are many thousands NOT many millions of Terrorists. They have taken a few towns NOT a Country. They could so some destruction in American, but America didn't go down on 9/11. 

We are trying to stop them without using military people. I applaud that strategy. I guess we learned something from Iraq and Vietnam. However, if they piss the Western World and some Arab Countries off enough where we say: "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore," The West and the Arabs will send in the troops and it might take too long and it might cause many causalities, but they will be destroyed. America will survive. Terrorists will never win out over democracy. 


Sooo, hay you media people, stop putting bullshit on TV. Get the facts. Explain both sides of each issue. Stop believing the only way to get a lot of people to watch is by producing negative stories. Make me proud so I can really believe:

 I Know It's True Cause I Saw It On TV