Three Times A Lady

 Three Times A Lady

If you read my blogs, you know that I've been through a lot in my life. Most of my issues have been social not work related. Two devoices left me in financial straits, the stress they caused gave me stomach problems, hair loss and hives.

Then came my Ellen. At the time she was everything I hoped for and we had a great marriage. Then out of the blue she had a heart attack and died. Worst day of my life - you bet-um. 

If you read my blog "My Ellen" you knew I was not going to let my love of life stop. I went out looking for someone different realizing there could only be one Ellen. I never thought I could fall madly in love again. I never thought I would be loved better than I have ever been loved before. I never thought someone would come into my life and make me happier than I've ever been before.

Well, that person came as unexpected as Ellen's death. Her name is Joyce. If you've lost a loved one (even if it's just a friend), there is someone else that might make your life even happier. Go for it.

Sooo, as a tribute to my Joyce I just listened to a wonderful song by the Commodores.

"Three Times A Lady"

Thanks for the times
That you've given me
The memories are all in my mind
And now that we've come
To the end of our rainbow
There's something
I must say out loud
You're once, twice
Three times a lady
Yes you're once twice
Three times a lady

And I love you
When we are together
The moments I cherish
With every beat of my heart
To touch you to hold you
To feel you to need you
There's nothing to keep us apart
You're once twice
Three times a lady
And I love you
I love you

A Saying For Happiness

A Saying For Happiness

Every once in a while, I read a saying that reminds me what to focus on for happiness. This is today's saying:

'Happiness is not about getting what you want all the time, It's about loving what you have and being grateful for it."

I love getting what I want. Some of the things I want are just not in the cards for me. I would love being an executive of an American football team. However, what are my chances - NONE. What I learned in therapy was loving who I was, grateful for what I have and doing my best to make me better.

Some say: "how can poor people be grateful for what they have?" Well, I grew up poor and when I think back, I loved my friends,  I loved sports. I loved the very few dollars I made working because I had some money just for me. My parents were great (that's not true for many poor people, but finding others (like a grandmother) to nurture you can be just as rewarding.

I think growing up poor has made me extra grateful for what I have now. But, I remind myself that I made this great life for myself - nobody gave it to me. Since 40, all of my decisions were made for my happiness. Yea, some didn't work out, but, most did.

Sooo, what about YOU? Are you chasing happiness or are you grateful for what you have while striving for more? Do you look forward to another day or do you live in a shoulda - coulda world? Are you waiting for the outside world to make you happy or are loving yourself and the people around you? Are you unhappy in your job or do you see it as a means to get happiness outside of work?

I could go on and on, but living your life by accepting the statement above will add to your happiness today.

Love Yourself - Love Life