Would You Love Me Like I Am

Would You Love Me Like I Am

If someone asks me about my health I always say: "I'm Mister Perfect." Oh ya, I have significant spinal issues, but as I also say: "it's just the bumpers - my engine and transmission are in great shape."

However, when it comes to my emotional state, I'm far from Mister Perfect. When it comes to my decision making, I'm far from Mister Perfect. When it comes with the way I deal with problems, I'm far from Mister Perfect. When it comes to being right, I'm far from Mister Perfect.

Therefore, dealing with me day to day can be a challenge. I know I'm a good person. Even with my faults, would you love me like I am? Over the years I've gotten much better. I'm no longer the asshole I used to be. But, I can be difficult at times. Sooo, Can you love me like I am?

I've lost wives and friends because they didn't accept and love me like I am. Fortunately, I love myself and have a wife who loves me like I am. That's all I need to live out my years a happy person.

What about you? Do you try to change your true self so others will like you? Can you live with who you are for both the good and the bad? Most important, are there people in your life who:

Love You Just The Way You Are?

Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold

Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold

"Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold" just happens to be the title of my first book. The subtitle of the book is: "Taking Charge Of Your Career And Your Life." If that's what you want to do, read my book. However, this blog is about another meaning of that title.

I married my second wife because she was the exact opposite of my first wife - Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold. My current and future wife is nothing like either of them - I finally bought a pair of socks for my cold feet.

I accepted my first promotion because it came with more money, more power and my enhanced ego by being able to tell my family and friends "I was a Manager" - Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold. I took a demotion to get into marketing (not as a Manager) because Marketing was more fun - I finally bought a pair of socks for my cold feet.

I purchased a 1976 Cadillac Eldorado Biarritz Diesel because it was beautiful (the car was a piece of shit and broke down monthly) - Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold. I traded it in (only one dealer would take a trade-in) and brought a Volvo. Back then the Volvo was a not very good looking square car. However, it was maintenance free and ran great for years - I finally bought a pair of socks for my cold feet. 

Sooo, what is the moral of this story - don't do things just because you'll make more money - don't make decisions because you believe if one thing you tried was a disaster the opposite will turn out much better - don't buy things only because they are pretty and you believe will make you look better and more successful - Only do things because you truly believe it will lead to greater happiness. 

Take a step back and think about how you're conducting your life. Happiness is:

Never Buying A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold

Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy

Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy

I spent the early part of my life insisting I was right. I've spent the later part of my life focused on my happiness. I knew I was smart. When I had an opinion and someone didn't agree with me I would defend my opinion to the death. 

Happiness was not my goal, being right was more important to me. I would get extremely aggravated if the other person would not yield. I would get mad at that person and sometimes took it out on other people.

It took me almost forty years to realize that I was acting this way because I was insecure. Being right was my way of feeling good enough. Now, I get mad at MYSELF if I let myself get upset over someone with a different opinion. Now, I ask myself if holding on to this "RIGHT" bone is making me happy. The answer is always NO!

So what if you like Trump. So what if you don't like rock and roll music. So what if you don't think the movie "The Birdcage" is funny. So what if you don't believe in LBGT rights. It's just not worth giving up my happiness trying to convince you you're wrong.

I also have come to realize that with some people the more you insist the more they will resist. Maybe "they" have to be right to feel good enough. Maybe "they" are willing to trade their happiness just to be right. The bottom line is no matter what their reasons, it's NOT my problem.

If You Rather Be Right Than Happy You Will Never Achieve True Happiness