Immortality

Immortality

First, Happy And Healthy New Year to all. I've been reading Michio Kaku's book called "The Future Of Humanity." The book is mainly about space travel in the future. We all want to know if there are others like us out there. Most of us realize that no matter what we do, the Earth is not going to be here forever for so many, many reasons. Most scientists believe there are many, many Earth-like planets in our solar system. 

The problem today and for the foreseeable future is - how the hell to we get there. All of these Earth-like planets are so far away that unless we are able to build a WARP engine (Like the one in Star Trek) we will need at least 200 plus years to get to the nearest one. 

Scientists, backed by billions of dollars from supper rich people (so they can live forever), are working on a few ways to become Immortal or at least enable humans to live at least 200 years. NASA is also chipping in because they know we have to populate another world or the Human Race will become extinct.

All of the solutions will never happen in my lifetime, but if you were just born today you have a shot. The body's cells break down over time. One solution is to stop them from breaking down. However, if we were able to fix the good cells from breaking down, we would also enhance bad cells (like Cancer cells that may be dormant), to spread throughout our body.

Another solution is to modify our DNA at birth so that the mortal gene's clock slows down. There are many, many moral issues with screwing around with our DNA to create that solution (can you spell Designer Babies).

Still another solution is to copy our brain into a Robot that can live for the long trip to the stars. Believe it or not, scientists are working on such a solution. We have already mapped the human brain. We have already been able to convert a very small part of a human brain onto the chips that run our computers. 

There are two problems with this solution. First, the computer chips of today are limited on how many you can put into a computer to mimic the human brain. How about billions of chips in a computer that would have to be the size of Philadelphia and cost more than the economy of the United States.

In the many decades to come we might be able to stop using silicone memory chips and use memory chips made of the same stuff our brain uses. That would be a good first start (remember we still have to build a spaceship that can get to these distant planets), but some scientists and many other people have concerns that these Robots will take over humanity.

Sooo, I have been asking myself do I want my brain put into a Robot? Do I want Robots to colonize another Earth instead of ME? Most importantly, do I want to be Immortal? 

Everybody who is healthy would say YES. But just think about it. The current population of the world is already eating up much of our resources. Do I really want to be 200 years old trying to find some food to eat, air to breathe and shelter? Do I really want to live on a distant planet that doesn't have a supermarket, an Italian restaurant or a casino?

Well, what about the Robot idea? Sure, my memories would be intact. Sure, I would be superhuman with skills beyond what the human body can do today. Sure, my brain would be much smarter than it is today. The BIG BUT IS, what about the taste of a delicious desert? What about the love and closeness of another human being? What about the enjoyment of a great movie or concert and what about no longer having a fabulous organism?

I'm Not Willing To Give Those Things Up Just To Live A Few Years Longer

Take Time To Reflect

Take Time To Reflect

Right now, I'm sitting at my computer and writing something that has to do with reflection. I just had lunch with my beautiful wife. Before that my son, daughter-in-law and my two grand kids called Ellen and I to wish us a Merry Christmas. 

That got me to reflect on how wonderful it is to have family who cares about me. Now I'm sitting here and taking time to reflect on my life. Now I'm sitting here and thinking about how much I appreciate my life.

I guess when your older (like me) and have more time away from a busy schedule, you start to take stock of your life. However, even when your younger there should be times for you to reflect. the holiday season is a perfect time. 

Most of us love the holiday season because it just seems that almost everybody is happy and giving good cheer. That season always makes me happy for that reason. When your happy and everyone around you are happy, it so easy to reflect and appreciate how good life can be.

Then when the holiday season is over, we go back to the grind. On Christmas we love the snow. After the holiday season we get pissed off because the snow makes are life harder. During the holiday season, we love the love and happiness we get from friends and family. After the holiday season some friends and family get on with their lives which doesn't always include you. Therefore, after the holiday season reflection gets harder or nonexistent.

How do we live everyday like it's the holiday season? Well, you can't change your friends or family, but you can change YOU. You can decide you're going to give love and cheer to everyone you see. 

You can give happiness and thanks to the clerk who checks you out at the grocery store. You can give positive statements to your co-workers. You can call friends and family even if they haven't called you first. Most of all:

You Can Reflect On The Wonderful Things Life Has Given You

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

Last year I sent the blog below to tell everybody my feelings about Christmas. This year, with all the negative crap going on around the world, putting Christmas in your heart is really, really important.

My hope is we find a way to have Christmas all year long.

                                  Merry Christmas

Christmas puts a smile on my face. To me Christmas is an attitude not a religious event. Almost everybody I know sees Christmas as a time for fun, laughter, friends, family, food, drink and being merry.

Thanksgiving is for giving thanks. Christmas is for making others happy (especially kids). Jews love the Christmas type celebration so much they created Hanukkah that lasts eight days of giving, loving and joy. 

Unfortunately, some people don't like Christmas because they don't have loving people around them. They feel alone and that makes them depressed. That's why it's so important, in life, to make an effort to find love and happiness through people. If that's not possible then we all should find love and happiness within ourselves.

A simple phone call can put a big smile on someone's face. A simple gift or just a card can make someone happy. Having friends and or family over your house will make you happy. Giving love and happiness to others (especially those of need) will make you feel great. 

Happiness Is The Forgotten Ingredient In Life

Christmas = Happiness

If You Don't Believe In God Can You Still Be Spiritual

If You Don't Believe In God Can You Still Be Spiritual

"I don't believe in a God because I believe in myself" - Kenny Felderstein. Therefore, if this blog upsets you, stop reading. 

Below is the definition of Spiritual:

1- relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.

2- relating to religion or religious belief.

3- one's spiritual home — a place in which one feels a profound sense of belonging

I not only believe I'm Spiritual, I FEEL Spiritual. 

My definition of Spiritual is:

1- I believe in the human Spirit. The people I'm most attracted to have a great sense of Spirit within themselves.

2- I believe in Humanity. I believe that my love for Humanity is Spiritual.

3- I believe always trying to do the right thing is Spiritual.

4- I believe loving unconditionally even if you don't get what you want is Spiritual.

5- I believe that "what goes around - comes around" and is Spiritual.

6- I believe giving positive energy to others is Spiritual. I believe giving negative energy to others is NOT Spiritual.

Many people think the only way to be Spiritual is to be religious. How many religious people are not Spiritual - more than you might think and I know a few. All religious people believe in a God, therefore, since they want to get to the pearly gates, they must have to be Spiritual. 

My problem with that thinking is many of those religious people who believe in God don't live by one or all of my definitions of being Spiritual. In my opinion, this world would be a much better place if everyone lived their lives by my definitions.

For those who hate this blog, I see nothing wrong with being religious if that what floats your boat, but don't think that just by being religious and believing in God makes you Spiritual. 

Making The Mundane Exciting

Making The Mundane Exciting

There is a fabulous series on Amazon Prime called "The Kaminsky Method." Just one of the many, many great lines in the show is "Making The Mundane Exciting."

Most of us live our lives in the Mundane. Eat, Shit, Sleep, is our motto. Work, kiss the spouse, say hi to friends, is our calling. See the sky, breathe the air and shelter is our right. These are the Mundane things we do almost every day.

What if we change the narrative?  What if we can make a ham sandwich exciting by putting secret sauce, chips and sweet pickles on it? What if we can get excited because we feel a good shit will make our day? What if we can get excited when we are able to sleep late on Sunday?

What if we could get excited and proud just putting in a good day of work? If that doesn't work, what if we can get excited when we get the hell out of there? What if we don't just kiss the spouse on the cheek and instead give the spouse a big wet one - now that would be exciting for us both? What if we don't just say hi to our friends and instead, we hug them and tell them we appreciate them - that would be exciting?

Wouldn't it be exciting if we stop taking the sky for granted? What if we take a moment to look at the clouds and/or the sunset and get excited what the Universe has given us. What if we could get excited appreciating that Mother Nature has given us air to breath so we can live a wonderful life? What if we can get excited because we have shelter when others do not? 

Please believe me that: 

"Making The Mundane Exciting" Is In Your Power

I May Not Change The World But I'm Going To Leave A Scar

I May Not Change The World But I'm Going To Leave A Scar

I love Country Rock. One reason is because they have interesting lyrics. "I May Not Change The World But I'm Going To Leave A Scar" is a line written and sung by the group Blackberry Smoke. I like that lyric because I want that to be me.

I have worked with and managed many people. Nothing I said to them or what I taught them would Change The World, but I believe I Left A Positive Scar. I have mentored people and believe their lives got better after working with me. There was nothing I said to them Would Change The World, But I Left A Positive Scar.

My books and my blogs on: "Happiness The Forgotten Ingredient" didn't Change The World, But I hope I Left A Scar on some of the people in the eleven countries that read my blogs.

I believe my truth, my happiness, my sense of humor, my positive energy, my love of life and my love of others:

May Not Change The World, But I Hope I Left A Scar

For All The Places I Have Been I'm No Place Without You

For All The Places I Have Been I'm No Place Without You

My Ellen was at a flea market and bought a sign that said: "For All The Places I Have Been I'm No Place Without You." When she brought it home, I was without words. We agreed to put it over our bed.

Every time I walk into the room, I read that saying. It's probably the best way of saying: "I LOVE YOU." It's the way we feel about each other. However, it's also the way we feel about ourselves.

Our relationship of over thirty years has made that saying reality. I never had felt that way before. At forty (with the help of another) I finally realized that I was feeling the same way about myself. Reflecting on that saying when I think about myself, I would rewrite it another way: "For All The Places I Have Been I'm No Place Without ME."

I finally realize that I love myself. I finally realize that I trust myself. I finally realize that I'm a good person. I finally realized that I deserve the good that has happened to me. I finally realized that I'm lovable and loved by others.

Sooo, when I read that sign every time I walk into the room, I think of Ellen and I think of me.

For All The Places I Have Been I'm No Place Without You/Me 

Love Train

Love Train

Hi all, miss me? It's football season and I'm locked in on my Rams and Eagles. However, at the gym today I listened to the O'Jays sing their song "Love Train." That song got me thinking. What if people all over the world joined hands and formed a Love Train?

What if the people in Russia and China and Egypt and Israel and Africa joined hands and got on the Love Train? What if the American people in the South and in the East and in the Mid-West and in the West joined hands and got on the Love Train?

Ya see, you don't need no ticket just get on board. 

This world has got to change. America has got to change. We have people joining hands on Climate Change why can't we have the same energy dedicated to loving each other. Talk isn't enough. 

I'm calling on all young people (especially school and college people) to start the Love Train. Older people will join if a Love Train is created. Sooo, I'm asking you - no I'm begging you to ask your kids to form together and create an American Love Train. If they do so the rest of the world will join in.

You Can Count On Me To Get On Board.

Jealousy

Definition Of Jealousy

Do you know a jealous person? Are you a jealous person? Many of us would say yes to the first question and no to the second. If you're saying no to the second question - I'm calling bullshit. 

OK, you may not be jealous of your spouse or you may not be jealous of your best friend. However, we all want something we don't have or can't have and that leads to jealousy. 

Let's start with Webster's definition of jealousy:

* jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.

* mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.

* vigilance in maintaining or guarding something.

* a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood.

Kenny Felderstein's definition of jealousy:

* An insecurity within yourself.

* A feeling you don't deserve what others have.

* An anger inside you because you believe you can't get what you want.

* A feeling that society and the Western System of Democracy says that you should have more.

* A learned mental state from growing up with unhappy jealous parents, siblings and/or relatives.


I want to be rich. Well, who the hell doesn't want to be rich? The question is are you jealous because you don't have the means to become rich? Are jealous of someone else that is rich? If you are, maybe one or more of my definitions above might be the cause.

I want to be like Mike. Is that because you're jealous of Mike. If so, maybe that's because of my first definition (An insecurity within yourself.)

I want to be taller. If you're jealous of tall people it may be because of my third definition (An anger inside you because you believe you can't get what you want).

You probably know better than I what you're jealous of. Being jealous will not destroy your life, but it will lead to unhappiness if you take it too far.

The More You Love Yourself Just The Way You Are, The Less Jealous You Will Become

You Have The Key

You Have The Key

Song writers write lines that are just brilliant. In the song "All Ready Gone" by the Eagles, Don Haley wrote, "often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key." I'm a living example of that line.

I'm sure each of you have found yourself is a situation at work or in your personal life that felt you were bound by chains. In those times did you feel like there was no or unacceptable solutions? In those times did you feel that you had no control of the situation? 

I'll bet that in those times you didn't consider you had the key to make the situation better. I'll bet that in those times you didn't think you had the key to control your happiness. You were wrong and if you're in that situation now you're wrong today.

You have the key. You just have to decide to put it into the lock and remove the chains. To do so takes guts, a willingness to look bad to others and a strong desire to want happiness for yourself. 

You can change your job. You can change your relationship. You can speak up to family and friends. You can say what you believe even if others won't agree with you. You can speak up to and challenge authority. You can change your life for a more positive and happier one.

You Have The Key

When You Come To A Fork In The Road, Take It

When You Come To A Fork In The Road, Take It

Yogi Berra

In case you didn't know, Yogi Berra was a New York Yankee All Star and Hall Of Fame baseball player and manager. However, what he was best known for was his crazy quotes. Below are some of them. Believe it or not, Yogi didn't make them up. They just came out of his mouth when he was interviewed by the press.

1. When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

2. You can observe a lot by just watching.

3. It ain’t over till it’s over.

4. It’s like déjà vu all over again.

5. No one goes there nowadays, it’s too crowded.

6. Baseball is 90% mental and the other half is physical.

7. A nickel ain’t worth a dime anymore.

8. Always go to other people’s funerals, otherwise they won’t come to yours.

9. We made too many wrong mistakes.

10. Congratulations. I knew the record would stand until it was broken.

11. You better cut the pizza in four pieces because I’m not hungry enough to eat six.

12. You wouldn’t have won if we’d beaten you.

13. I usually take a two-hour nap from one to four.

14. The future ain’t what it used to be.

The reason I like the quote "When You Come To A Fork In The Road, Take It" best is because it says to me that when you come to the fork you just can't sit there and contemplate your navel, you have to make a decision.

In my book "Never Buy A Hat If Your Feet Are Cold" I state that if you make more right decisions than wrong decisions, you're doing good - however, no decision is a wrong decision.

We worry too much that we will make the wrong decision. Doing so, puts us in a deep freeze. When you're in that state you will probably not make any decision. For example, you know the marriage is over, but you're too afraid (frozen) your decision will be the wrong one. Sooo, you stay in a unhappy loveless marriage pissed off that you didn't have the strength to make that tough decision.

As you know, I made that decision twice. I did it for my happiness and it sure worked out for me. Don't get me wrong, I made plenty of wrong decisions. But, I'm proud of myself for making the decisions I made. I'm proud that I didn't let my fear stop me from making decisions in both business and in life.

What about YOU? You know you have to make a decision for your happiness. Sooo,

When You Come To A Fork In The Road, Take It

Forget The Past

Forget The Past

One of the great things about getting older is that you have a lot to look back on. However, sometimes it's better if you don't. 

Relationships sometimes come to an end for a host of reasons. When it's fresh in your mind you ask yourself why. When it's fresh in your mind you feel confused, frustrated or angry as to why someone stopped talking to you. But, when you get older and the relationship ended a long time ago, you have forgotten what it was all about in the first place.

When it's fresh in your mind, should the other party call you, you tell them you're pissed. When your older and the other party calls you, out of the blue, you say to them: I'm not sure why we were fighting in the first place - want to do lunch.

Then you start thinking maybe I should be calling some people I stopped talking to a long time ago because I don't remember why I stopped talking to them in the first place. You see, friendships are very hard to come by and they get even harder as you get older. That's why it a hell of a lot better if you Forget The Past and try to renew the friendship for the future.

I almost lost a great friend. We didn't talk for many years. Then one day one of us called the other (I can't remember who went first and it didn't matter). We talked like nothing happened. When we thought about it we had no idea why we stopped talking in the first place. We laughed and now we are still great friends.

Sometimes having CRS (CAN'T REMEMBER SHIT) is the best solution to keeping friends you've known for many, many years still friends. I'm glad when we talked I;

Forgot The Past

One Of The Keys To Happiness Is A Bad Memory

One Of The Keys To Happiness Is A Bad Memory

Rita Mae Brown

I read this quote the other day and I had to think about what she meant. Here is what I came up with:

* Someone hits your car and you're pissed. For your happiness, call the insurance company and FA-GET-ABOUT-IT.

* You feel bad because you came late to a lunch date with friends. Apologize and FA-GET-ABOUT-IT.

* A friend stops talking to you and you can't help thinking you did something wrong. Accept it's their problem not your problem and FA-GET-ABOUT-IT.

* You break your toe because you were being stupid. Get the toe fixed and FA-GET-ABOUT-IT.

* Your Mother keeps telling you what to do. She makes you feel like you're not good enough. FA-GET-ABOUT-IT HER.

I could go on and on and I'm sure you all have stories on you own that would have made your life a lot happier if you would just:

FA-GET-ABOUT-IT.

Somebody's Watching Me

Somebody's Watching Me

Below are some of the lyrics from the song "Somebody's Watching Me" by Rockwell. This is an older song (1984), but, sounds like it was written today. "I'm just an average man, with an average life
I work from nine to five; hey hell, I pay the price
All I want is to be left alone in my average home
But why do I always feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone
I always feel like somebody's watching me
And I have no privacy
Woh, I always feel like somebody's watching me
Tell me is it just a dream?
When I come home at night
I bolt the door real tight
People call me on the phone I'm trying to avoid
Well, can the people on TV see me
Or am I just paranoid?
When I'm in the shower
I'm afraid to wash my hair
'Cause I might open my eyes
And find someone standing there
People say I'm crazy
Just a little touched
But maybe showers remind me of
"Psycho" too much
That's why I always feel like somebody's watching me
And I have no privacy
Woh, I always feel like somebody's watching me
Who's playing tricks on me?
Who's watching me?
I don't know anymore
Are the neighbors watching?
Who's watching?
Well, it's the mailman watching me

And I don't feel safe anymore
Oh, what a mess I wonder who's watching me now
(Who?) the IRS?

Woh, I always feel like somebody's watching me
Tell me it can't be
I always feel like somebody's watching me" Sounds like a paranoid person, but think about it. I'm on the internet a few hours a day. I know Amazon is watching me. I know Facebook is watching me. I know cameras are watching me in malls, airports, when I travel, casinos, etc., etc. I even have cameras outside my home to watch YOU! This is the world we live in today. When I was young the only thing or person watching me was my mother. It's probably necessary, but, "Why Do I Feel Like: "Somebody's Watching Me"

Things Will Change

Things Will Change

One of the things I love about life is that no matter where you, the economy and the world is today, you can be sure that Things Will Change. If you think you can avoid change - you're wrong. Most of us want our money to be safe. Most of us want the world around us to be safe. Most of us want our life to be safe. It's not going to happen because Things Will Change.

The reason I say most of us instead of all of us is because there are people that live by the chaos theory. These people love chaos. They live on the edge of financial disaster. They live on the edge of personal disaster. They love testing the system. They believe a safe life is no life at all. Some of them become billionaires. Some of them become famous. Some of them become leaders. However, many of them just live in chaos their entire life.

The world is going to change. Climate Change will change the Earth. When the Earth changes we all will have to adjust. That means all of our lives will change. Political change will affect our lives. Financial change will test how well we've managed our money.

I like to be on the safe side, but at the same time I accept that Things Will Change. Because it's not a maybe, I've decided to embrace change. I've decided to think that change is a more interesting life than a life with no change at all. 

I've decided to be a person who will make a change for my happiness. I've changed wives for happiness. I've changed jobs for happiness. I've changed my goals for happiness. I've changed my attitude so I can be a better person. 

Don't put your head in the sand. Figure out how you can make a positive from change because, like it or not,

Things Will Change

Being Loved

Being Loved

Is Being Loved important? Most would say yes, but some would say no. Does Trump want to be loved? I don't think so. What he does want is for everyone to say he's right. My father was not the loving type. On the other hand, my mother was a major hugger and loved every human and every animal. I was my mother's favorite and got hugs and love all the time. I turned out to be more of the hugging type. 

My sister wanted my father to give her love and affection, but because he was not the loving type, she didn't get it. She turned out to be like my father. The interesting thing is my grandparents were the same as my mother and father. My grandfather was not a loving person. My grandmother was exactly like my mother. I'll bet that my mother was my grandmother's favorite and she hugged and loved my mother more than the three boys.

THE CYCLE CONTINUES

You can't turn a switch and become a loving person. You also can't demand another person to become a loving person. Sooo, what are your options? Well, if you have been reading my blogs, you know what I'm going to say: "love yourself just a little bit more than anyone and anything else."

I will guarantee you that if you are able to accomplish that goal, you will fill fantastic when you're loved, but still be a happy person if you are not. Based on your background and a little bit of your DNA, having unconditional love for yourself might be a tough hill to climb. Is there another option - yes?

You don't have to be a loving person to be a best friend. You don't have to be associated with a person who is not a loving person, in general, but who has befriended you. Being a best friend, by my definition, is someone who cares about you. Someone who wants you to be happy. Someone who will be there for you. Someone you trust and respect you. Someone who is willing to tell you you're wrong (Trump doesn't have best friends).

Expected to be loved is a crap-shoot. Expecting to have best friends is, in my opinion, something you should count on. The best way to create best friends is to be a best friend yourself.

Sooo, do you need to Be Loved? If you take option one or two, it's not mandatory.

Women, Isn't Time To Give Men A Little Credit

Women, Isn't Time To Give Men A Little Credit

Women have come a long, long way in the last fifty years. They are no longer thought of as just homemakers and child raisers. Their attitude toward work, politics, sex and life in general has changed a great deal. They get a lot of credit for these positive changes.

Well ladies, men have also changed a great deal over the last fifty years. It's OK for a man to hug another man. It's OK for a man to raise the children while the wife works. BTW, the best way for women to get those management jobs that men control today is to get those guys to take care of the kids. 

It's OK for a man to use cosmetic products like skin conditioner. It's OK for a man to want to look younger and get Botox. The fact of the matter is that men have changed a lot over the years.

However, when it comes to sexually pleasing a woman, men are still blithering idiots. You see, men are simple when it comes to sex. Give a man intercourse and a blow-job and he is a happy camper. Women are much more complicated. 

Who do you think invented the GPS system in a car - men? Why, because they have no idea where the hell they are going. Ladies, you have to be the man's GPS system. "Start at the top. Go south a little bit. Make a small left turn and spend some time there. Then go back to the main road and go straight south. If you pass the grassy knoll - YOU HAVE GONE TOO FAR. Back up to the knoll and stay there until I give you further instructions." Men need directions.

Sooo, what have we learned here?

* Men have made major strides in the last fifty years.
* Men are less macho today.
* Men like to look good today.
* Men are willing sexual partners - they just need a lot of direction.

Women, Isn't Time To Give Men A Little Credit

   

What Is It Like To Be 75

What Is It Like To Be 75

The other day the wife said: "I can't believe you're going to be 75 in December." She said it like I should be depressed. Sooo, why aren't I?

Five to fifteen was a dramatic change for me. I went from a kid with no responsibilities to someone who was starting his life. 

Fifteen to twenty five was a major change. Work, marriage, kids and trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted wasn't the happiest time of my life.

Twenty five to thirty five was a big change. Higher positions and much more responsibility at work and divorce were the most stressful of my life.

Thirty five to forty five was more fun than less fun. Another divorce didn't help, but falling in love with the best person I ever met, made the no fun into a lot of fun. Also, I finally figured out who I was, what I wanted and how I had the power to control my happiness, made my life so very much better.

Forty five to fifty five was just more of the same good stuff.

Fifty five to sixty five was even better than forty five to fifty five because I retired. 

Sixty five to seventy five is fabulous. I'm still with the love of my life. I'm very proud of my writing and my friendships are even more appreciated.

Other than a few more aches and pains, I don't expect seventy five to eighty five to be much different than sixty five to seventy five.

Eighty five to ninety five will be a big, big change because I will be dead exactly one month before my ninety fifth birthday. 

Maybe, by that time they will have figured out how to keep people living longer or maybe, they will be able to install my memories into a designer baby.

Well, if none of that happens, Seventy five is currently a happy time for me and dying one month before my ninety fifth birthday will have meant that I had a fantastic life.

Sex, As We Know It, Will Be A Thing Of The Past

Sex, As We Know It, Will Be A Thing Of The Past

Don't get alarmed, sex will be with us for a long, long time. I'm happy that everyone reading this blog will be long gone before Sex, As We Know It, Will Be A Thing Of The Past. 

Before Human Beings came on this earth, intercourse by manuals was needed to keep the species going. Evolution gave Humans a gift - an orgasm.  I'm not sure why we evolved that way, but I'm sure glad we did. However, early Man was the only Human getting an orgasm. Hit the woman over the head - uga-bugga and it was all over. 

Today, women expect a man to give them an orgasm. If they can't get a man to do it, they can do it to themselves. The idea of only having Sex to reproduce is a thing of the past unless you are so very religious that you're willing to give it up - UGH!!!!!

Today, women are in more control than they were when I was born (74 years ago). Unless a woman is a Sex addict, the more control women get the less Sex Man will get. You see, most men want Sex all the time (even I at 74). Women want it when they want it.

The women who want a child because of their desire to nurture, also don't want the pain of having a child. Believe me, if a man had to go through the pain of having a child there would be no people left. 

All of this has gotten me thinking about the far away future of Sex. In 1973 the Woody Allen movie Sleeper depicted a future where people no longer had Sex. If they wanted an orgasm, they would go into a machine call the Orgasmatron. Five minutes later they would come out of the Orgasmatron with a smile on their face.
An orgasm comes from the brain not the things down below. Those things are today's tools, but the actual orgasm comes from the brain. Therefore, I would not be surprised if twenty years from now some company makes an Orgasmatron like device for the masses. I know I would use it.

Today, we are making Human parts from DNA stem cells. We have already reproduced a sheep, called Holly, from DNA stem cells. How long will it be before we create a Human? Not just any Human, but a designer Human created for the person wanting a specific baby. 

It won't happen in our lifetime because political and religious leaders will stop it. However, I'm not so sure we can stop someone from a country that thinks it's a good idea. Even if it doesn't happen in our lifetime, when religion goes away and women take control, they will no longer want to go through the pain of childbirth and therefore, they will make it happen.

I for one, have always greatly enjoyed the entire process of making love. It would be a shame if love making went away, but when there is an Orgasmatron available and designer babies are available, who is to say:

Sex, As We Know It, Will Be A Thing Of The Past

HATE

HATE

Definition of Hate: "intense or passionate dislike" 

Synonyms: "loathe, detestation, abomination." 

Action: "revenge."

WOW, that's a lot of Hate and should not be confused with: "mad, angry, disappointed, or pissed off." Do I Hate cream spinach or do I just don't like it? Do I Hate someone or am I so angry at that person that I will never see them again? Do I Hate when someone says that I'm not good enough or does it just piss me off?

I have used the word "Hate" many times in my life. I'll bet you do the same. However, now that I understand the definition of "Hate" I may not use it ever again. It's such a negative and ugly word. It's such a destructive word. When I think about it, I really don't have an intense or passionate dislike of anybody or any thing.

I've always said that "Words Matter." Using that word now will make me feel dirty inside. Using that word doesn't make me a better person. Using that word doesn't serve me. I used to feel that having "Hate" for my EX wives because of how they hurt me, was a good thing. Now I realize that accepting who they were has giving me freedom. I never wanted revenge, I just wanted my freedom.

Let's take the word "Hate" out of our vocabulary. I'm not saying to replace it with love because that's not realistic. It's OK to not like something or someone, but holding on to that bone of "Hatred" will never make you a happier person.

HATE, WHAT IS IT GOOD FOR - ABSOLUTELY NOTHING

Actions For A Happy Life

Actions For A Happy Life

There is a book "The Three Prescriptions For Happiness" by Ken Keys Jr. that has had a big impact on my life and my happiness. The Three Prescriptions are:

1- Ask for what you want, but don't demand it

2- Accept what's happening for now

3- Love unconditionally even if you don't get what you want

Instead of explaining each one to you, I strongly suggest you read the book.

Over the years I have learned additional actions one could take to create a happy life:

* Love life. No matter how bad things get, find a way to love life. In my opinion, this is all the life we are going to get. Until someone shows up from the "after life" and tells me how much better that is, I'm going to love, love, love this life.

* Have a passion for something. Don't just "like" somethings, have a passion for at least one of those things. I have many passions in my life. I have a passion for football. I have a passion for my writing. I have a passion for helping people I mentor. 

* Love something with all your heart. I love my wife with all my heart. Before she died, I loved my dog Zita with all my heart. I have friends and family that I love with all my heart. I love for ME with all my heart. Having love in your heart is the best way to have a happy life.

* Put yourself in first position. My mother would say: "that's being selfish" I say: "I deserve to be in first position." I'm a good person. I'm an honest and truthful person. I always try my best to do the right thing. I deserve to be in first position. Sooo, when the wife asks me which steak do I want, I always tell her: "the best one."

* Don't be afraid to call bullshit. So many people are trying to tell you what to do. So many people are telling you how it is. When what they say doesn't feel right or is away from your moral compass - CALL BULLSHIT! 

* Always tell the truth (your truth). Oh, you say: "I don't want to hurt someone's feelings" - I'M CALLING BULLSHIT. If my wife just bought a dress and wants to know if I like it, I'm telling her the truth. I might say: "looks great." I might also say: "that dress makes you look like a bag lady." The truth (your truth) is the truth. The truth will set you free. You will get the utmost of respect if you are thought of as the person who always tells the truth (your truth).

 If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, make the above part of your life.