You Have To Go Through Something To Go Somewhere

 You Have To Go Through Something To Go Somewhere

When I heard an NFL Coach say, "You Have To Go Through Something To Go Somewhere" all I could think of was my life. Two divorce disasters, two financial insolvencies because of the divorces, losing contact with my two boys, losing all of my immediate family to health problems, losing my great wife Ellen to heart failure, and not being able to do any sports because of my bad back.

However, the things I had to go through didn't stop me from regaining financial security, two loving marriages, finding and falling in love with Joyce after losing my Ellen, falling in love with and being loved by Ellen and Joyce's families, trading my sports active years with traveling, writing books and blogs, and mentoring people to find their happiness.

I know many people have gone through worse things than I have. I'm sure some of the people who read my blogs have gone through tough times. The point of the NFL Coach's saying is did you use the negative to go somewhere positive? Did you put the negative of the past and find a way to the positive?

If you're going through a bad situation now, do you have the fortitude to execute a positive plan for the future? Can you let go of your ego and let someone help you? If your today problem is a health problem, can you accept what's happening for now and find a way to be happy with the life you have now and will have in the future.

Remember, all you need to have a happy life is food to eat, air to breathe and shelter. Everything else is cosmetics. Remember, feeling bad for yourself, feeling angry and frustrated for what is happening to you now will never lead to personal happiness. Please, don't let your current problems stop you from loving the life you deserve.

If you have gone through something in the past and gone to somewhere positive, pat yourself on the back. Love yourself for dealing with the negative and turning it into something positive. Remember, 

Loving Yourself More Than Anything Or Anybody Else Makes You A Life Loving Person

Thanksgiving - It's Not About The Turkey

 

Thanksgiving

 

A few years ago, I wrote a blog called "Thanksgiving - It's Not About The Turkey." I read it again and it still rings home with me and I hope it rings home with you. This is today's edited version.

 

Thanksgiving - It's Not About The Turkey

 

 

Thanks for the times you have given me

 

Thanks for my health even though I ache all over

 

Thanks for the friends and cousins who wish me well, have been there for me through Ellen's death and want me to be happy

 

Thanks for letting me turn 78 soon with my brain intact even though I have CRS (Can't Remember Shit)

 

Thanks for the next 17 years (November 11 (11/11) 2038) I plan to enjoy with all my heart

 

Thanks for my beautiful (both inside and outside) wife Ellen who always had me feel mighty, mighty real

Thanks for being so lucky to have found my wonderful wife Joyce. Finding true love at my age is incredtable

 

Thanks for a dad who taught me about the importance of hard work, never to lie and a strong moral compass

 

Thanks for a dad who gave me a bright brain and a wonderful sense of humor even though he also gave me bad bumpers (bad back, bad spine). It was a great tradeoff - thanks dad 

 

Thanks for a mom who loved and hugged me all the time.

 

Thanks for a mom who taught me to be tolerant to every race, religion and sexual orientation

 

Thanks for the money I've made that has enabled me to have choices in our American way of life

 

Thanks for Bob who got me to believe I was in control of my happiness and could choose happiness over negativism

 

Thanks for me, because since 40 years old I've been making all the right choices

 

Thanks for me because I love what I've become

 

Thanks for the people around the world who read my blogs and my books because it makes me feel valued

 

Thanks for my mentored clients who have enhanced their happiness because of something I gave to them

 

Thanks to all the people who give positive energy out to the Universe so they and the rest of us could have a better life

 

Thanks to America for giving me and most others a chance to create a better life

 

Thanks to all the people around the world who believe love, tolerance and freedom will win out over totalitarianism and terrorism

 

 

To all of you on this wonderful holiday;

 

Focus On The Things To Be Thankful For - Not The Turkey

 

Anger - What Is It Good For - Absolutely Nothing

Anger - What Is It Good For - Absolutely Nothing

Are you angry with what is going on in the Middle East? Are you angry with our political situation? Are you angry with the high cost of living? Are you angry with one or more Presidential Candidates? Are you just Angry?

Never in my life have I seen and heard so much anger. Never in my life have I read so much anger in newspapers and the internet. Never have I watched so many angry people in the movies, TV and streaming shows. 

The fact is, Anger - What Is It Good For - Absolutely Nothing. 

How is anger serving you? Does it make you happy - NO? Does it lead to a healthier life - NO? Does it get you closer to your friends and love ones - NO? Do other people like you more when your anger shows - NO? Is your conversation with others any better when both of you are angry - NO? Does anger solve your problems - NO?

Sooo, Anger - What Is It Good For - Absolutely Nothing

The example I give to the people I mentor is: Your car is waiting for a light to change, and someone smashes into your car's back bumper. What do you do? Well, you can get very angry and scream at the driver or you can take a deep breath and think maybe the driver is not well. The bottom line is, you have insurance and anger and screaming will not fix the car. All the anger will do is make you upset and unhappy.

We can't change what is going on in the Middle East (although protest is a reasonable response). We can change our political situation or the people running, but only by our vote, not by anger. We can be better shoppers to minimize the impact of high cost of living, not by anger. We can stop being angry because:

Anger - What Is It Good For - Absolutely Nothing