Complete Control Of Your Happiness

 Complete Control Of Your Happiness

Could you imagine if you had complete control of your happiness. Most would say that's impossible because there are too many variables. For instance, how can I predict the mood of my boss? All kinds of shit happens at work. Wife and kids can affect my happiness. The stock market is unpredictable. What if I get into a car accident? My health is not guaranteed. The world is going in the wrong direction. My government is going in the wrong direction. WOW, too many variables.

Below are a few "what ifs" for you to consider.

What if your boss's mood didn't affect you? Be a professional and do your job. If he or she tries to make you unhappy, quit, go to another department or just ignore him/she. The boss is probably in a bad mood because he/she is not happy. Instead of being upset, try being sympatric or empathic to his/she problem. By doing so, you will be in control of your happiness.

What if all kinds of shit is happening at work and you agree it's not your business nor your problem. Focus on the happiness you will have after work or focus on the great ham sandwich you had at lunch. By doing so, you will be in control of your happiness

What if you don't try to solve you wife or kids problems. You can't help them if you are unhappy, so don't let them make you unhappy. You can't stop the outside world from doing the things they are going to do. However, you can refrain from letting the outside world from making you unhappy. At ten, I would say to the bullies "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." If you believe that, you will be in control of your happiness.

Financial problems are the highest cause of people being unhappy. What if you live by the slogan "all you need to have a happy life is food to eat, air to breathe and shelter. Everything else is cosmetic. Maybe someone else has more than you, but they can't be happier than you if you are happy with what you have. Taking control of your finances puts you in control of your happiness.

What if you are in a car accident and you choose to not let it upset you. If someone else caused the accident, getting mad at that person will not repair your car. Your insurance will repair the car. Not getting angry or frustrated will allow you to control your happiness.

What if you accept your health as it is, not what it used to be or not what you want it to be. Knowing you are doing everything you can to make things better is a hell of a lot better than "woe is me." Accepting your health will allow you to control your happiness.

Lastly, the world is going to shit and the government is not making it any better. This is a fact. What if you stop letting the situation affect you. Put yourself in first position. Believe all that bad stuff will not affect you unless you let it. If you want to protest, do it if it makes you happy. I've decided for my happiness, to not listen. By doing so, 

I Am In Control Of My Happiness.

You Can't Find Happiness From The Unhappiness Of Others

You Can't Find Happiness From The Unhappiness Of Others

While spending time with my close friend Cindy, she told me that she was writing down sayings that she believed were things to live her life by. The saying she liked best was: " You Can't Find Happiness From The Unhappiness Of Others." Since I believed in that saying also, I'm writing this blog for you.

My first wife was mad at me when I left her. She was so mad that she did everything she could to make me miserable. She achieved her goal, but did it make her happy? According to my sons, the answer is no. My second wife was also angry at me when I left. She hurt me emotionally and financially. Did it make her happy - no, because I don't think anything will make her happy.

When I saw Bob at 40, my happiness got much better. Having two wonderful wives in my life, made me even happier. Bob taught me to always wish others well no matter the circumstances. To this day, I wish my first two wives happiness.

Seeing the anger my first two wives lived with made me realize, You Can't Find Happiness From The Unhappiness Of Others. Happiness comes from happiness with yourself, not from the happiness or unhappiness of others. Happiness comes from loving life, not from others lack of loving life. Happiness comes from wishing others happiness. 

What about you! Have you ever said: " I wish that bastard would go to hell?" Have you ever thought: " If that bastard would just die, I would be happy." Have you ever thought: " my life would be so much better if he/she would be unhappy the rest of their lives?"

Guess what, you would never be happy thinking those things. Wishing others happiness is your path to happiness. Sooo, even if someone has done you wrong, please remember:

You Can't Find Happiness From The Unhappiness Of Others

Hopes And Dreams

Hopes And Dream

At 8, I had many Hopes And Dreams. I wanted to be a ball player. At 10, I realized I wasn't going to be good enough, so I wanted to be a football coach. In my teenage years, reality struck home and I realized I needed to make money. Reality (and a bad back) meant football was not in my future.

Not knowing what my financial future had in store for me, I stumbled into computer science. My Hopes And Dreams as a computer scientist became a reality. However, my Hopes And Dreams of being involved in football never left me. Being successful in computers, allowed me to Dream about working for NASA. It almost happened, but at the last minute NASA cancelled the MOL project.

I went through a Hopes And Dreams dry spell, until I started writing. My Hopes And Dreams of being a writer, publisher and Blogger were satisfied. However, I still have Hopes And Dreams that someday my novel will wind up in the hands of a movie producer or that my 600 plus Blogs will get me a column in a newspaper.

I never want to lose my Hopes And Dreams. It feels great to think about my Hopes And Dreams before I fall asleep. Sooo, what about YOU? No matter how old you become, it's always wonderful to have Hopes And Dreams. Don't focus on if those Hopes And Dreams will ever come true or be realistic. 

Hopes And Dreams Will Just Make You Happy.

Another Dimension

 Another Dimension

Just for the purpose of this blog, let's assume there is no supreme being (God) who watches over us. If you are a spiritual person, you believe your essence goes somewhere after you're dead. What if that essence goes to Another Dimension?

If so, that would explain a lot. That Dimension would reject the evil ones and embrace the good ones. That Dimension would explain why some people see their loved ones when they have a near death experience. That Dimension could be responsible for some people who believe they have been reincarnated from another life. That Dimension would be all about love and happiness.

Religious people would say that Another Dimension is bullshit. There has to be a God who reigns over heaven for the good ones and the bad ones go to hell. There has to be a God because the Bible says so. There has to be a God because my house of worship says so.

When asked, have you or anyone else has seen God, your answer is that you just have to have faith. When asked why there is so much death and pain in this world, your answer is that it's God's will. When something really fabulous happens, you say it's God's miracle. When asked what happens when you die, you say I will go with God. Religious people agree that God works in mysterious ways. 

Sooo, is it so hard to believe that someone you can't see, touch or taste might not exist? Even if you are religious, is it so hard to believe there might be an alternative like:

Another Dimension