What Do You Want Out Of Life

 What Do You Want Out Of Life

That question usually gets answered in many ways. I believe a person's age has a major impact on the answer. For example a fifteen year old would have a very different answer than a seventy year old. Sooo, here are some inputs I think must be considered no matter what's your age.

*  Love of life. If you don't have a strong love of life you'll never have a great life. As you know I don't believe in the Afterlife. I'll never forget what my Grandmother said to me on her death bed when I said to her: "Bubby, you're going to a better place." She said back to me: "What better place - I'm going into the ground." Assuming she might be right, I believe this life is all I'm going to get. This attitude makes me want to get the most out of my life NOW!

My parents just wanted to get through life. Experiencing their attitude toward life made me feel I never wanted to live a life like theirs. That got me to push though my barriers and fear of failure to take more risks and make more decisions. Some of those decisions were wrong, but I survived and learned from them. I believe I've had a more interesting life because of both my good decisions and my bad decisions. 

Life is precious. Never take it for granted. Try to enjoy all of its ups and downs. Most of all surround yourself with positive energy. If possible, be the source of positive energy. Even if there is an Afterlife, that should have nothing to do with getting the most out of this life.

*  Good Health.  Young people take health for granted. Older people believe health is the most important element of their life. In my opinion both are wrong. Young people are idiots when it comes to their health so I don't even want to talk about them. However, older people focus too much on their health at the expense of having an interesting and rewarding number of years that is left to them.

In conversation with my older peers too much time is spent discussing their health. More time should be taken to discuss the great meal they had or the fabulous trip their planning. All older people have aches and pains. Many older people will have broken something that needs surgery. Unless we're talking about the big "C" or worse, older people should be more focused on what they want out of life then the hemorrhoid they had removed last week.

I find it ironic that too many older people talk about their health problems, but they don't do what's in their power to do to have a healthier life. Some smoke. Some are too fat. Some eat everything they know will eventually give them poor health. Some don't go to a doctor when they know they should. If you're peeing every thirty minutes you have a prostate problem - go to a doctor immediately. If you feel a lump on your breast - go to a doctor immediately.

*  Happiness. There's that word again. I realize I keep preaching in my blogs that happiness is the forgotten ingredient in life. I do so because it's true. What good is "good health" if you're not happy. What good is money, ego and power if you're not happy. You know the answer, so why do you put those things in first position and leave happiness as second fiddle.

My blogs and books tell you all the things you need to do to have a happy life. Please believe me I didn't just make the shit up. Everything I write or wrote is true. If you're not happy now read them and reread them NOW!

Sooo, what do you want out of life? The answer is yours not mine. However, I do know that the three things stated above are the minimum you should have on your list.

Live The Best Life You Can Create Because You Deserve It!!!

Marriage, What Is It Good For

Marriage, What Is It Good For

Let's start with what Marriage really is - It's a legal document. That's right, when you sign the Marriage Certificate you've created a legal document that has all kinds of rules. For example, it states what happens when you divorce.  

In California the document states that California is a no fault Marriage state. That means you can divorce for any reason. However, in many other states the legal Marriage document states you can only divorce with cause (like cheating on your spouse or emotional stress).

The legal document has so many rules that it forces some people to say to their spouse: "I will only Marry you if you sign a Prenuptial Agreement." I say, what the hell gives the Government the right to dictate what goes on in my Marriage and especially if the two of us what to end the Marriage. The answer is you both signed a legal document and the courts rule.

Wouldn't it be great if we could just Marry and divorce at will. That's the way it's done in most African Countries. I love you so let's get Married. I hate you so let's get divorced. Bing - Bata - Boom it's done without any Government involvement.

OK, sooo, what is Marriage good for - it's all in your head. It may make a Spouse feel safe. We all know that's bullshit. Safe from what? The Spouse can still beat you up. As a matter of fact, the police see Spousal Abuse different if you're Married. "Oh, it's just two Married people having a fight." 

Marriage will never making you safe from your Spouse cheating. It will never make you safe from your Spouse making you unhappy and stressed out. It will never make you safe from your Spouse taking you for all you have.

Marriage shows you really love me. OH, sooo, you really didn't really love me before so we need a Government legal document to prove you really love me now. Again, I'm calling bullshit.

Marriage will legitimize our children. No, your children are legitimized by the way you love them and treat them. Your children are legitimized by the way you love each other and how you treat each other. What the Government Marriage Certificate does is involve the children in a legal divorce dispute between the both of you. It also forces lawyers and judges to determine how the children are treated after the divorce.

Marriage will make our parents and our Church happier if we're married. Again, bullshit, bullshit, bullshit!! Why should the outside world have any say in what the two of you do with your relationship? It's up to the both of you on how you want to love each other. Government or no Government is your choice not their choice.

Sooo, let me ask the question again:

Marriage, What Is It Good For - Absolutely Nothing!

Happy Easter

Happy Easter

I'm not religious so I don't celebrate Easter like religious people would celebrate, but there are things about Easter I like.  First and foremost is that Easter brings families together. Most would say that Easter is for the kids, but to get the kids together you have to get the adults together.

The question is why does it take Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas or any other religious holiday to bring everyone together? There is a show on TV called Blue Bloods. One of the best things I like about that show is in every episode there is a scene where the entire family sits down for Sunday dinner.

They just don't eat, they talk. They talk about their lives, their work, their differences, etc. I don't know how realistic that is because I didn't have that growing up. However, we just had a Cousins reunion when everyone got together and ate, drank, talked and were merry. For me, that felt really good.

I guess everyone is too busy and too relocated to get together for Sunday dinner. Kids (teenagers and older) don't want to spend time with their parents because most parents are too judgmental and want to probe into their kids' lives. Parents are too busy with work and enjoying their lives when the kids go off to college or move out for other reasons.

Sooo, it takes Easter to bring everyone (including the kids) together - what a shame.

OH, BTW, let's not forget the second most important part of Easter:

Yummy yellow marshmallow chickens, coconut dark chocolate Easter eggs and bunny gummy bears. 

Wow, I can't wait until tomorrow.

TRUMP, TRUMP, TRUMP!

 TRUMP, TRUMP, TRUMP!

The media hates TRUMP. The media loves TRUMP. TRUMP, TRUMP, TRUMP! It's starting to make me sick. It's not about whether I like or dislike him as a person who might be in charge of my loving America. It's about seeing his name everywhere I go.  

I go to Las Vegas I see TRUMP Towers. I go to New York I see TRUMP buildings. All in all there are thirty three TRUMP hotels and condos. I watched golf a few weeks ago and it was on the TRUMP golf course. TRUMP even arrived on the last day of the tournament in his TRUMP helicopter. All in all there are seven TRUMP golf courses.

There is TRUMP entertainment. There is The Donald TRUMP Collection,TRUMP books, TRUMP Homes, TRUMP Natural Spring Water and even TRUMP Fragrance - I hope it doesn't smell like TRUMP. I turn on the TV and I see TRUMP. I open my morning paper and on the front page I see TRUMP. TRUMP, TRUMP, TRUMP! My head is spinning out of control. 

No matter what your politics are, there is too much TRUMP. Don't the media realize that TRUMP is getting a free ride? All the other candidates have to spend millions to inform everyone who they are. TRUMP doesn't have to tell the world who he is and what he stands for because the media is doing it for him.

Then my tiny brain begins to think, what if TRUMP becomes President. I'm not saying whether he will make a good President or a bad President. What I am saying is when will he ever have time to run my beloved country. 

Every President has gray hair after their first term in the job. Why do you think that is? I'll tell you - it's because it's a 24/7 job with the weight of the American People on their heads. TRUMP will not go gray because he dyes his hair, but there is no doubt in my mind he'll go bald. 

Sooo, since we know the Presidency is a full time stressful job, you have to ask yourself can this man take care of our country and still be involved in all his other ventures. The answer is a resounding NO! Some might say he'll turn over everything to his children. Do you really think he would risk all of his money and the TRUMP name on his kids? Again the answer is a resounding NO!

I don't know how this election is going to go, but I do know I'm sooo sick of seeing:

TRUMP, TRUMP, TRUMP!

Kissing And Hugging

 Kissing And Hugging

Does anybody kiss anymore? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek. I'm talking about serious making-out kissing. It seems to me that hugging and kissing has been replaced with high-fives, a casual hug and then straight to intercourse.

Public kissing is gone. Again, I'm not talking about meeting a friend or a spouse and giving them a "love ya - mean it" kiss. I'm talking about open mouth with tongues for at least five minutes in public or not. To me the saddest part is that younger people don't enjoy the closeness of kissing and hugging. Sex to them is all about the organism.

Now there is nothing wrong with organism, however to me that is the end of the sexual act. Kissing and hugging are the means to that end. Even if organism doesn't happen, the glow you get from making-out is very worthwhile. The one exception is if the kissing and hugging gets too intense, those guys' blue-balls can be really painful without the organismic release. Still, I'll take the blue-balls over "wham bam thank you ma'am" any day.

Sex fades as we get older. But, kissing and hugging should never fade. You don't have to be in a sexual mood to kiss and hug the one you love. You don't have to be in a sexual mood to make-out with a friend or spouse. It's really all about getting closer to someone.

Organisms are fun and feel great. Everybody should get as many organisms as life will allow. But, if you really want to enjoy another person, I suggest you spend more time:

Kissing And Hugging

Did You Lock The Front Door

Did You Lock The Front Door

I’m a little OCD. When I leave the garage I have to look back to make sure I shut the garage door.  This makes my wife pissed because she now has to look back to check. I also rotate my underwear. My rational is that each pair of shorts should have a shot at my boys. I know that’s bullshit, but that’s what I tell myself.

I also work off lists. Did I lock the door? Do I have my mobile phone? When I travel my list includes, do I have all my pills, did I take my nightshirt, etc, etc, etc. Organization is my mantra. I organize my drawers, I organize my pills, I have a place where I put my phone, I have a place where I keep my keys, etc. I do this because it helps me keep my stress level down and because I’m a little OCD.

My wife is the opposite.  She operates in organized chaos mode. If she asks me to get something from her bathroom drawer I get flushed. I open the drawer and all I see is utter chaos. I start to get dizzy. If I have to dig into the chaos to find something, I’m afraid I’ll black out before I find it.

My wife doesn’t mind living her life like that. She’s comfortable she can find what she wants even though nothing is organized. Organized chaos does not stress her out. However, lack of organization makes life harder as you age. For example, since she doesn’t have a specific place where she puts her phone, there are times when she forgets to take the phone when she leaves the house.

Sooo, which person are you? In my opinion, I’m nuts. On the other hand my wife’s way relies too much on the capability of her memory. Probably the right answer is somewhere in the middle. The good news is that she loves me just the way I am and I love her just the way she is.

BTW, Are You Sure You Locked The Front Door

Hobbies - A Lost Art

Hobbies - A Lost Art

Growing up almost everybody had a hobby. People who could work with their hands made interesting stuff. People who didn’t have the skill to make things with their hands, used their brains. People who loved art painted even if they sucked and nobody saw what they created. People who were creative created a hot looking car or a sculpture or even a board game (that was my specialty).   


Some of the things they created were used by the family. Seeing furniture in your house that you created was extremely rewarding. Riding in that supped up car was a personal thrill. Playing a board game, I created, with my friends made me proud.


One reason people had hobbies (even if it was just reading books) was because they had more time back then. Most jobs were nine to five jobs. Sooo, even if the job you worked at wasn't the thing that gave you palpitations; you had the time after work to focus on your passion.

Today, people have less time. I spent my career in the hi-tech industry. If you left work before 8pm you were called a slacker. People today seek overtime to help give the family more. Some have to work two jobs just to get by. Most married people or even people just living together work at different jobs. Some of those jobs have different shifts leaving one to care for the kids while the other works.

Technology is eating up a lot of people's time. Therefore, there is less time for being creative at a hobby you probably would enjoy more. Too much email. Too much texting. Too much playing games on your tablets. Too much TV. 

I know you're probably thinking: "sooo, why is this bad?" The reason is because you're not using all of the capabilities the Universe has given you. You're not using the creativity inside you. You're not using that fabulous brain in your head. 

To reach a higher level of happiness, I recommend you work less. I know that means you probably won't have a better car, or house, or expensive clothes, or fancy dinners. However, what you will have is more time to enjoy your life.


I also recommend you minimize your addiction to technology. Games on a tablet are neither creative nor rewarding. Games on a tablet or watching TV is an escape not a personal happiness builder. Emailing and/or texting all day may be a good way of communicating, but, is it really serving YOU?

All of these distractions don't come close to the reward you get by taking on a hobby like painting, or making something with your hands, or creating a board game. 

You see, a hobby is something you do for love and happiness. If you make some money at it great, but that's not the reward you should seek. The reason is any time you use money as the motivator, you're not doing a hobby you're doing WORK.

I don't blog, write or mentor for money. If I should get a royalty from my writing - great, but: 

I Do Those Hobbies Because They Make Me Feel Proud And Happy.