Is It Fate Or Destiny Or Does Shit Just Happen

Although the words are used interchangeably in many cases, fate and destiny can be distinguished. Traditional usage defines fate as a power or agency that predetermines and orders the course of events. Fate defines events as ordered or "inevitable" and unavoidable. Classical and European mythology features three goddesses dispensing fate, known asMoirai in Greek mythology, as Parcae in Roman mythology, and as Norns in Norse mythology. They determine the events of the world through the mystic spinning of threads that represent individual human fates.

Destiny is used with regard to the finality of events as they have worked themselves out; and that same sense of Destination, projected into the future to become the flow of events as they will work themselves out. In other words, fate relates to events of the future and present of an individual and in cases in literature unalterable, whereas destiny relates to the probable future. Fate implies no choice, but with destiny the entity is participating in achieving an outcome that is directly related to itself. Participation happens willfully.

How many of you believe when shit happens it's just fate?  How many of you believe when shit happens it's just destiny?  How many of you believe when shit happens it's just shit happening?  I believe shit just happens.  

I really don't believe in fate.  Fate assumes something is controlling what happens and how it turns out.  Fate assumes I have no control over what happens nor it's outcome because the thing that's making it happen is not of this world.

I also don't believe in destiny.

"Fate implies no choice, but with destiny the entity is participating in achieving an outcome that is directly related to itself. Participation happens willfully."

Look, I've been preaching to you that you're in control of your happiness.  I agree with that because you can make choices to be happy or sad.  You might not like the choices, but you can make them.  Poor people can be happy.  Money can help, but it's not necessary.  A paraplegic can be happy.  Nobody wants that to happen to themselves or anybody else, but if it does, that person can choose to find happiness or give up and be miserable with the life they have left. 

However, saying you have control of your destiny is bullshit.  You can control what you do, but you can't control what "it" does.  "It" is the outside human world and Mother Nature.  You can't control the people you know.  You can't control terrorism, bigotry, arson or some nut blowing something up.  You definitely can't control Mother Nature.

Sooo, for these reasons, I believe shit just happens.  Once you accept that as fact your life will get better.  Believing in fate will never make you happy because you'll have given up all control.  Believing in destiny will frustrate you because the things you can't control will find a way to make you unhappy.

Accepting that shit just happens enables you to think about what you're going to do about it and then take action.  Somebody smashed my car.  Was it fate?  Was it destiny?  No, it was just some asshole talking on his cell phone.  Now that you've accepted that there are assholes in this world and shit just happens, what are you going to do about the smashed car.

It's wrong to live your life counting on fate or destiny.  It's wrong to live your life blaming fate or destiny. 

"It's right to enjoy living in a chaotic world where you never know when shit will just happen because you can then decide how you want to react to the chaos."