Be Good To Yourself

Be Good To Yourself

It's that time of year when, for some of you, giving to others makes you feel good. It's that time of year where, for some of you, giving is a tradition. It's that time of year where, for some of you, giving is expected and not always appreciated. It's that time of year where, for some of you, the only reason you're giving is because you know the other people are going to give you something. It's that time of year where, for some of you, giving is out of guilt not because you want to or that it makes you feel good.

But, WHAT ABOUT ME? This is that time of year where you need to put yourself in first position. This is that time of year where you pamper yourself. This is that time of year where you do something special for yourself. This is that time of year where you buy yourself something you always wanted. This is that time of year where you love yourself just a little bit more than anybody else.

Sounds selfish especially during the holiday season, but making yourself happy should always be your primary goal in life. Mothers, fathers, religious leaders, kids, etc., guilt you into putting yourself in second position and give to those who are less fortunate than you. Sounds good in theory, but it will never make you a happy person putting yourself in second position.

It is possible to keep yourself in first position by giving to others as long as you're doing it because you love doing it. Seeing that smiling face on a less fortunate person can be as rewarding as getting something from others. However, spending money you can't afford even if it is on someone less fortunate will have the opposite effect you expected by giving. It's bad karma to become resentful because you feel like you're always giving and never getting back the same.

Getting what you want and deserve, especially on these holidays, will not only eliminate becoming resentful, it will make you feel loved and happy.  Feeling loved and happy enables you to give more to others because you feel you're in a great place. Feeling you're in a great place and in first position, enables you to not feel guilty by getting something for yourself or from others. Feeling loved, happy and guilt free enables you to love giving to others. This is what I call the happiness circle.

Sooo, don't wait for others to decide what you deserve. You know you're a good person. You know you care about others. You know that if you're giving something to others is coming from the goodness in your heart.

This can only happen if you put yourself in first position and always:

Be Good To Yourself