Emotional Silence

Emotional Silence

If you read my last blog you know that our beloved dog, Zita, has now taken her positive and loving energy out to the Universe. This is my first experience losing a family member that has been with us for thirteen years. What my wife and I are feeling now is the quietness in our home.

Zita was old and in her old age she stopped barking at other dogs or people she didn't know. The fact of the matter was, other than a few silent farts, she would be asleep most of the day. Even though she was quiet, without her presence, the house seems empty. My gym Trainer who lost both of his cats, called it Emotional Silence.

Zita had a way of sleeping in spots where you had to step over her to get where you were going. I guess she wanted to make sure we knew she still existed. Even now I still look for her when I'm going into the kitchen.

A friend of ours suggested to my wife that she get a hearty plant that we can look at and remember her. Yesterday, I heard my wife saying a few happy things to the plant. This plant is one of the things that are helping us deal with our Emotional Silence.

The other major thing that we are doing is allowing ourselves to grieve. My wife said she felt blue today, but was OK yesterday. I felt blue yesterday, but after a hard workout at the gym today, I'm feeling much better today. Writing this blog is my way of dealing with the Emotional Silence.

If you've lost a love one that was a big part of your life remember one thing someone once told me - this too will pass. If you allow yourself to grieve, if you do things to remember the great times you had with the love one (my wife's plant and she and I have a picture of Zita as our computer desktop),

The Emotional Silence will eventually pass.