Strong relationships are what make for a happy life

 

Strong relationships are what make for a happy life

 

In 1938, researchers at Harvard set out to learn what makes a person thrive. They recruited 724 participants, a combination of students at Harvard College and low-income teenage boys in Boston. All were willing to let the researchers track their lives, from childhood troubles to first loves to final days. Now, 85 years later, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has expanded to three generations and more than 1,300 descendants of the original subjects; it is, according to the researchers, the longest-running in-depth study on human happiness in the world. From all the data, one very clear finding has emerged: Strong relationships are what make for a happy life. More than wealth, I.Q. or social class, it’s the robustness of our bonds that most determines whether we feel fulfilled.

People in isolation are usually unhappy people. People who know others but never get to know or share their feelings are not getting all the happiness they deserve. People who get to share friendship, love and affection with others and get that love back, are usually happy people.

How do you get strong relations with others - get rid of your barriers. Barriers hold you back from sharing your true feelings. You put up barriers - they put up barriers. I know it can be scary, but what do you have to lose? I promise, nobody will send you to North Korea. 

Another way to get Strong Relationships is to love, cherish and appreciate the friendships you have now. Don't take those relationships for granted. You make the first call. You be the first one to say I appreciate you. You be the one to say: "I Love You."

Lastly, don't have relationships with friends, family, lovers and spouses who don't give you back your love or appreciation. A friendship, a lover or a spouse who has put up barriers and doesn't, have it in them, to give you back what you give them will never make you happy.

The problem with this World is there's not enough love going on. Remember the Beatles song - "All You Need Is Love." There are people who will love you. Put yourself out to find them and when you do, give them all the friendship, love and affection you have in you.