Who Do You Trust
Trust is one of those very important words the definition of which is:
A relationship is built on trust. Spouse, friends, relative relationships can only be honored if there is trust. Many divorces are caused by the lack of trust. Having friends or family you're not sure you can trust are not truly friends. Having trust in yourself is critical to your happiness.
Insecurity happens because you don't trust yourself. Not trusting others can lead to insecurity. Some say: "don't trust anyone." In my opinion, not trusting anyone is being paranoid. Not trusting anyone will put you in permeant unhappiness.
Sometimes you just have to trust someone. For example, if you don't trust an employee will get the job done, you will find yourself micromanaging the task. Employees hate micromanaging managers. Micromanaging leads to a lot of stress. It will shorten your life.
I live my life by trusting anyone I first meet. I tell them I trust them, but if you lose my trust, you will never get it back - no do overs. Living my life this way is less stressful and makes me happy.
If there is someone you're not sure you can trust, you have two choices:
Choice One, don't be with that person, don't hire that person or tell that person, employee or company you don't trust them.
Choice Two. Trust and test. If it's a person, do what I do (see above). If it's someone you hire to complete a job, trust them to do a small part of that job. If they succeed, trust them to complete the rest of the job.
Remember, even if you have trusted a person or a company, you can always recover if they lose your trust. Just don't let yourself become stressed out because you're worried they will become untrustworthy.
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