Love

Love

Love is a complex, multifaceted emotion and behavior characterized by deep affection, intense attachment, and an unselfish concern for the well-being of others. It spans a vast spectrum, from the profound and romantic to simple pleasures and universal compassion. 

Wow, is love really that complex? I believe it's more simple than that. I believe love has a few components that when exist, you have the best chance to experience true love.

* Falling in love. To me, that's all about sex, attraction and endorphins. Some people fall in love on their first date. Some fall in love on their first sexual encounter. Some fall in love just looking at a really good looking person. Some just love to fall in love. Falling in love is easy and may not last without the elements below.

* Respect. There is no love without respect. The more you know someone and what they are all about, the more you find out if they are respectful. If they respect others there is a good chance they will respect you. You can't fall in love with someone that does not respect you. On the other hand, it's easy to fall in love with someone you dearly respect and who really respects you.

* Moral compass. Anyone without a solid moral compass is not to be trusted. If they cheat, they will cheat on you. If they lie, they will lie to you. If they take advantage, they will take advantage of you. Loving someone with a great moral compass makes you feel safe and trusted.

* Caring. When you feel the person really cares about you, wants you to be successful, wants you to be happy, wants you to to get all you deserve in life, that's the person to fall in love with. It's a loving knowledge that the other person will be there for you.

* Feeling loved. Just saying "I love you" is not enough. You have to feel loved. Someone who truly loves you will show you that love in the way they act, in the way they treat you, in the way they talk about you and in the way they show you the respect, moral compass and caring.

OK sure, attraction and emotion is a part of love but I have learned that the elements I listed above are the best way to find and enjoy true love.