Disappoint Everyone, Disappoint Anyone, But Never

Disappoint Yourself

 

 

Sometimes people who write TV shows say something profound.  It doesn't happen often, but when it does it can really hit a home run.  I wish I knew who the author is who wrote:

 

"Disappoint Everyone, Disappoint Anyone, But Never Disappoint Yourself."

 

If I did, I would assume he or she has written other profound sayings.  I'm going to tell you what this saying means to me.  However, you should think long and hard about what it means to you.

 

Let's start at the end; "Never Disappoint Yourself." Do you feel disappointed?  Did you make decisions in your life that made you feel disappointed with yourself?  Were you ever in a friendship or relationship that wound up disappointing you?  Did you avoid making a tough decision and feel disappointed in your lack of action?  Do you feel life will find a way to disappoint you?  When you get disappointed do you stop liking yourself?  When you get disappointed do you feel not good enough?  Do you feel disappointed all the time?

 

If the answer is "yes" to any or all of the above, you're not on a good path to happiness.  To get back on path, you have three choices.

 

1.      Avoid, at all costs, doing anything that might lead to you being disappointed.

2.      Do something that might disappoint "them" but will not disappoint you.

3.      Stop being disappointed.

Number one is not the right answer and won't work.  Avoiding life so you don't disappoint yourself is not living life.  Living life to the fullest is the right path to happiness. As I've been telling you, always ask yourself "what's the worst that can happen.  Even if the worse happens I believe I will recover."  An interesting life is more interesting when you've had disappointments and lived through them.  Don't cheat yourself out of a happy life because you fear being disappointed.  Remember:

 

"If you make more right decisions than wrong decisions that's great, but NO decision IS a wrong decision."  By Kenny Felderstein

 

Number two will work, but might have some consequences. You should always put yourself in first position.  You should always love yourself just a little more than anyone or anything else. Making a major change, making a major decision, putting yourself ahead of everyone else, might disappoint friends, family, children, church, team, bosses, co-workers, but if you're doing so for your happiness it shouldn't disappoint you.

 

You should never feel disappointed if you've disappointed others because you want a better life.  Let the others deal with "their" disappointment.  The people who care and love you will get over their disappointment.  If you disappointed others because you tried something new and failed don't let it disappoint you.  You'll try again and succeed or you'll realize you're over your head on this action and will try something you're more capable of doing right.  Never be disappointed because you tried and failed.  Feel great about yourself because you tried in the first place.

 

If you disappointed others because you just didn't give a shit, you're not a good person, you're not a happy person and you don't give positive energy out to the Universe.  People like that don't get disappointed by anything "they" do because they don't have a love for life.

 

Number three is the best choice.  If you get disappointed, get over it quickly.  It's not helping your happiness meter by staying disappointed. Long term disappointment leads to depression. Long term disappointment leads to poor health. Long term disappointment leads to not feeling good about yourself. Long term disappointment leads to more disappointment.

 

Whatever you did that made you disappointed, is not life threatening. Whatever you did that made you disappointed, will go away sooner the less you focus on it. Whatever you did that made you disappointed can be corrected. Whatever you did that made you disappointed is just a moment in time.

 

You have the power to be happy. You have the power to make a better life for yourself. You have the power to not be disappointed at any action you take that might lead to your happiness.