IT JUST SUCKS!!!

IT JUST SUCKS!!

To anybody that has been treated poorly by a loved one, I feel very sorry for you. It IS a horrible feeling. It makes you feel you're the bad one. It makes you feel you're not good enough. It makes you feel you're not loved by the person you love the most.  IT JUST SUCKS!!!

You do your best to please the person you love. You do your best to love the person you love unconditionally.  You do your best to acknowledge the person by praising him or her. You do your best to share your most intimate feelings. You do your best to ignore any of their faults because their good attributes far outweigh their less than good attributes. You love them and when they don't love you back - IT JUST SUCKS!!

How do you deal with that situation? One way is to get depressed. One way is to get angry. One way is to say to yourself they are ass-holes and don't deserve you, but that never works because you feel you don't deserve their love. One way is to remove them from your life. That doesn't work either because you love them too much.

One way is to accept they just don't love you as much as you love them. That way makes you angry at them and most importantly yourself.  One way is to try to let them SEE how much their actions affect your well-being. That will work if you believe there must have been a time when they did love you as much as you loved them.

I know that in my blogs I try to convince you that the most important person you have to love first is yourself. I still want you to believe that, but that's really hard when the other person doesn't love you for who you are.  

It's easy for me to say: "Just get that person out of your life." I had to do that twice before I met my love - Ellen. Divorce sucks the big one. It's painful and in the short term nobody wins. In the short term IT JUST SUCKS. However, in the long term it can become a big plus. It was for my first wife and it is for me.

If you ever find yourself in the situation stated above, do your best to talk it through with your love one. Don't give up easily. Maybe the other person doesn't realize the impact they are having on you.

You have to get closure on this situation with the other person. If you don't get that closure:

IT JUST REALLY SUCKS