Apologize

Apologize

When was the last time you apologized? When was the last time you said: "I'm sorry?" Some women say men are stubborn. Some men say women are stubborn. Some women say men are defensive. Some men say women are defensive. The truth is both are right.

Who goes through life wanting to be wrong? When did you ever hear your father or mother say: "sorry, I was wrong?" When did you ever hear your sister or brother say: "I was wrong?" When did you ever hear a politician say: "I was wrong?" Maybe, if they did, it wouldn't be so hard for us to apologize. 

I grew up being defensive. I would fight to the death before I would admit I was wrong. I believe it was because I didn't feel good enough and when challenged, I would fight back. The problem was I was and am bright. I could turn the conversation so far around that the other person started to feel maybe they are wrong. 

Therapy got me to realize that I was good enough. Therapy got me to realize I was a really good person. Therapy got me to love myself. Once I felt that I was bulletproof, apologizing, when I was wrong, didn't hurt so bad. By loving myself and feeling good enough, I no longer felt that I needed to be defensive.

What I learned was that apologizing, saying I'm sorry and not being defensive, got me more from people than when I was manipulating the conversation to defend myself. What I learned was people liked me much better when they believed I would no longer attack back. The fact is I'm a happier person saying I was wrong, when I WAS wrong.

Thinking you are never wrong will not lead you to the happiness you deserve. Saying: "I'm sorry will get you more love than being stubborn. Sooo, when you screw-up, drop your ego and:

Apologize