I Will Not Regret The Past Or Wish To Shut The Door On It

 I Will Not Regret The Past Or Wish To Shut The Door On It

If you have been reading my blogs, you know I've had a rough past. Divorce twice, my Ellen's death, not speaking to my two boys and grandchildren. Losing all my money twice because of the divorces. Major stress because of my bad marriages and managing many people at work. Being insecure caused me to lash out when my "not good enough" was challenged, and my many buttons that were pressed to hurt and control me.

With all that going on, you would think I would turn out to be a very negative person. The opposite is true. I got help with my insecurities and buttons. I still have a few buttons, but I don't react negatively if they should be pressed. One reason I love my wife Joyce is because she isn't a button pusher. 

Bob, helped me get over my insecurities by loving myself more than anything and anyone else. I'm much more emotionally bullet proof now than ever before. I've accepted the loss of my kids and built my happiness around my friends, family, a loving wife, and most importantly, loving myself. I recovered financially and this time I kept it. 

Do I regret my past - NO. I choose to believe that all the shit that has happened to me in the past has given me the appreciation of life I have today. Recovering from the past has given me the happiness I deserve. Knowledge of the past has helped me make better social and financial choices.

Self-help writers write: "the past is the past - live in the now."  I believe the now is the now because of what you learned from the past. By ignoring the past or shutting the door on the past, means you never learned a thing from the past. If you completely ignore the past, you may make the same mistakes in your now.

I know, for some of you, the past is too painful to remember. I suggest to you: "Pat yourself on the back" because lived through the past and are the great person you are now.

Regrets In The Past Or The Future Will Never Make You A Happy Person