Sex and Happiness

Orgasms make me happy.  I wish every person could have one or more orgasms.  Some people think an orgasm is over-rated.  I say, have two and call me in the morning.  Some say hugging and kissing is more important than having an orgasm.  I say, hugging and kissing someone, you are really into, needs to lead to a conclusion.  The orgasm is the conclusion.  Without it you usually feel unfulfilled.  You can end the session without the conclusion, but don't try to convince yourself it wouldn't be a lot better if you ended it with an orgasm.

Some say foreplay is more enjoyable than the orgasm.  I agree as long as the foreplay is more than hugging and kissing.  The body has many erotic points.  Foreplay that explores as many of those points as possible is a wonderful thing.  However, erotic foreplay with someone you care about, has to lead to a conclusion.  Orgasm is the conclusion.  It might not be as important as the foreplay, but without the conclusion of an orgasm, the body aches for a release.

Do you have to be in love to have sex - absolutely not!  Do you have to be in love to have great sex - absolute not!  That is a myth put into our heads by our parents and/or church.  Sex can just be a happy and fun time with a person you care about.  Making it more than it has to be, can ruin a great time. 

I love Ellen with all my heart for the reasons I've discussed in my previous blogs.  I also love having sex with Ellen.  It's fun and feels really good.  Loving and sex can be different.  The goal is happiness.  We want to make each other happy.  Loving each other makes us happy.  having sex with each other also makes us happy. 

If you are not having great sex it is either because you are with someone you don't care for or you are putting so much pressure on the fact that the sex has to mean something big.  Stop believing sex has to be a deep emotional love event.  Just go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is - fun and happiness.  If it includes love great, but don't make it mandatory.

What makes me even happier than my own orgasm, is when the person I'm with has an orgasm.  I believe it is the responsibility of each partner to find a way to please the other.  Being willing to explore the person's entire body to give them the pleasure they deserve, is being the source of positive energy. 

Slam bam thank you mam is not enjoyable for either person.  Racing to see who finishes first, is not happiness.  Yes, an orgasm feels good, but if you don't care about the person you are with, you might just as well masturbate.  At least that way you will never frustrate the other person and have to worry about safe sex.

There are many reasons why pleasing the other person makes sex very enjoyable to me.  Here are a few:

First, the negative energy person inside me and many others tries very hard to convince me I'm not good enough.  Even though I've taking control of him, it still feel great when the person I'm having sex with feels satisfied.  That makes me feel good enough.

Second, I'm the source of positive energy.  I do all I can do to help people put positive energy into their life.  My mentoring and blogging are just one way I do so.  Pleasing another person is giving them positive energy.  There are many ways to please another person (unconditional love, true friendship, etc.).  Great sex is one where both parties get a lot of positive energy.

Third, foreplay and afterplay is so much more fun when both parties are enjoying it equally.

Sooo, if you want to get all the happiness you deserve, add sex to your agenda.  Don't get too emotional about it, just enjoy it.  Sex should be fun.  Fun leads to happiness.  Happiness leads to positive energy.  Positive energy leads to more happiness - so on and so on.