Valentine Day - Happy Day?

For many people February 14th is a happy day.  For some people February 14th is a not so happy day.  The reality is, February 14th is just another day in your life.

The card and gift companies made it an important day.  Spacing is critical for their sales.  They would never allow Valentine's day to fall on the same day as Easter, Mother's day, Father's day, Christmas, Chanukah or Thanksgiving.

Sooo, Valentine's day is just another day unless you want it to be special.  I love my Ellen everyday - not just on Valentine's day.  We do things together all the time - not just on one special day.  I love her and she loves me.  However, as the blogger who is allowed to speak out of both sides of my mouth, I do get Ellen a few Valentine's day cards.

Two cards from me and one card from my dog Zita.  I have to get the card for Zita because she is a lousy card shopper.  On Zita's card, she tells Ellen how much she loves her (almost as much as she loved food).  Zita's speech is limited (duh, she's a dog).  So she has to write it down. 

Writing it down is important because words on paper (or digital) last forever.  Never say something in writing unless you truly mean it.  However, with that said, words said or written are today's words - not forever words.

The two cards I get Ellen have a purpose.  One is a funny card to celebrate Ellen's great sense of humor.  The other card is a serious card.  I look at a hundred cards to find one that has a saying or a poem that represents how I feel about her (hay, I'm a story teller - not a poet).

At the bottom of each card, I write: "your the best thing that has happened to me" and I sign the card: "love you today and forever."  Even though words are today not forever, words on paper (or digital) last forever.  With Ellen, I want them to last forever because I will always and forever love her.

Don't make Valentine's day a special day - make every day a special day to your love one.  Don't send a mixed message on Valentine's day.  A person will take your writings and your gifts as special.  They assume you mean what you write.  Don't make Valentine's day a special day unless you truly mean it.  Don't make Valentine's day a special day unless you plan to make the days after special.


For some people, Valentine's day is not a happy day.  It could be because they lost a love one, never had a love one, getting rid of a love one, being dumped by a love one or just going through a bad time in their life and Valentine's day reminds them how much their life sucks.

The solution to those people is to remember that February 14th is just another day in your life.  If you've lost a love one, you will get over it and find a new love.  If you never had a love one, think about the other people in your life who either love you or wish you well.  Send those people a Valentine's card to tell them you appreciate them in your life.  Who knows, maybe next year you will get a card from them.

If you are (or have) getting rid of a love one - celebrate.  You had the courage to take control of your life and seek a better relationship.  If you were dumped by a love one - celebrate.  Better know now than in the future.  Moving on is self healing.  Not hating that person is self healing. You will be with someone who cares for you more than the dirt bag who dumped you on next years Valentine day.

Lastly, if Valentine's day is just a reminder of how bad your life is today.  Do two things.  One, find a mentor who can help you put positive energy back into your life.  Two, spend Valentine's day reading all my blogs.  Read and reread them.  They will change your life for the better if you really want it and believe you deserve it.