Does Size Matter

Does Size Matter

If some of you are expecting this blog to be about sex you'll be disappointed. However, sex is a very important element in the search for happiness. Sex can be emotional or casual. Either way, if done right, it feels good and makes you happy. I rate sex pretty high on my happiness meter (for you perverts, a meter is way too long. A Hebrew National is about right).


OK, back to the purpose of this blog. People who are very tall have some advantages and some disadvantages. It's easy to have a presence when you're 6'4" or above (get my book "A True Leader Has Presence - The Six Building To Presence and you'll understand). A tall person walks into a room and right away he has a presence. However, after he (or she) open their mouth and speak their presence might be justified or destroyed.


A very short person has presence. That right, when a very short person enters a room full of people he or she are noticed immediately. But, like the very tall person, after he (or she) open their mouth and speak their presence might be justified or destroyed.  Let me tell you a true story:


While I was an executive at Xerox Corporation I decided to have a big party, at my house, for all my managers and employees. My two administrators (they were called secretaries' back then) were in charge of making the party a success. Janet was a tall woman with a lot of presence. Karen was a beautiful 5 foot 2 very bright administrator. Janet didn't have a significant other and was coming alone to the party. Karen had a husband who I invited.

When I told Karen to bring her husband Sol she said he probably won't come. I later found out from Janet that Karen and Sol didn't want to have Sol come to the party because he was a short person. It wasn't that they were embarrassed; it was they didn't want the other people at the party to feel uncomfortable. I immediately went to Karen and said that I insist Sol come to the party and if anyone was uncomfortable that was their problem.

Karen appreciated my words and said Sol would come. The two administrators came to my house about an hour before anyone else so they could set things up. Knowing they would be there shortly, I reminded myself that Sol was a short person and I had to make sure I didn't act weird when I saw him.

The doorbell rang and I knew it was them. I created a poker face so I wouldn't show any reaction when I saw Sol. When I opened the door I first saw Janet. I hugged her and thanked her for coming and helping out with the party. Karen was next to Janet and I embraced and thanked her also. After the embrace and with a concerned face, I said to Karen: "where's Sol." Karen, using her right index finger pointed down. I looked down and there was Sol. He wasn't short, he was really small. My poker face crashed and with a very embarrassed semi-smile I reached down and said: "Sol I'm so glad you came.


In case you're wondering, Sol was a dwarf. His brother was a dwarf and married Karen's sister. They had two normal size children.


As it turned out, Sol was the life of the party. Everyone was able to look beyond his size and enjoy his presence which he had a lot of. He was a musician and played our piano to everyone's delight. I on the other hand, couldn't help myself trying to figure out how the two of them screwed. Before you think I'm a pervert, I'm a very practical person and this was more of a physical thing than a sexual thing.


At one point during the party Sol said he had a small round trampoline next to the bed so he could run up and bounce his way up on the bed. That got a big laugh from everyone (including Sol) and made us like him even more. You see, Sol was comfortable in his body. He liked himself and proud of what he had accomplished in his life while dealing with a handicap. He didn't mind that others look funny or strange at him. He knew he was good enough and he married the best looking woman at the party who loved him dearly.


Now, on the other hand, I have a friend who has a size rule before she will go out with someone. She is taller than most women and if he is not at least her size or preferably taller she will not go out with him. If he is average height (5'6"-8"), she won't even take the time to find out what he is all about. I always joking said that she must have been bitten by a small person when she was young.


In this crazy world, tall people and short people have an advantage in society. Us average height people have to work harder to get and deliver a presence. I have a presence. My wife has a big presence. I don't envy tall or short people because they have a lot of negative things to cope with in life because of their size. I also don't judge anyone by their height. I judge them by the life I see in their eyes, the goodness in their heart and the words that flows out of their mouth.


When it's about people, size should not matter. Positive energy can happen to people of all sizes. Negative energy can happen to people of all sizes. Prejudging a person when you first meet them is wrong no matter what their size. I can also say the same based upon a person's looks, but that's for another blog.

Most average size people wish they were taller. I say, get your shit together, create a presence (again read my book), put positive energy into your life and love, love, love.