Signing Off - I've Had The Time Of My Life

Signing Off - I've Had The Time Of My Life

Hi all, this is my last blog on the subject of "happiness the forgotten ingredient in life." With way over 200 blogs since 2011 and read in over 10 countries, I've decided that I've beat this horse to death. I'm now going to concentrate on writing my next novel "For The Good Of The People." I'm also going to do more mentoring and work to get better at playing my guitar. I sincerely hope you all got some enjoyment and some incite regarding your control of your happiness from my blogs.


For those of you that want to reread or share my blogs with others I suggest the following:

• Buy my book "Happiness The Forgotten Ingredient." This book has 100 of my first favorite blogs.
• Go to http://thekenkennygroup.blogspot.com/ On the right side of the site is a list of all of my blogs by month by year on the subject of happiness.
• Wait until next year (2014) when I will be publishing my next 100 blogs in my book "Happiness The Forgotten Ingredient - Book 2."

I thought the best way for me to sign-off on my blogs is to give you a few lines from my favorite blogs. 

• I hope you realize that laughter will give you positive energy which will lead to a happier life.  I hope you seek out positive energy people that make you laugh.  I hope you become one of those people by laughing a lot.  I hope you start out each day looking for things to laugh about instead of waiting for the outside world to make you laugh. I've always said that the way I value my life is by the number of times I laugh.
  
• My feeling is when things are not going so good today, we always want to think people had it better in the past.  The way we should be thinking, when things are not so good today, is they WILL be better in the future.
  
• My sister, Shirley, died four months later.  I felt so sad.  However, I was also so happy that I had thirteen years with her.  I felt happy that I could be there for her especially through the worst of times.  I felt good that for the first time in a long time she had happiness in her life.  I felt happy that I was able to encourage her to fight this horrible disease for four years when the doctors said she only had a few months to live.  I felt happy we were brother and sister for the first time.
  
  
  I felt happy I overcame anger for my sister and found love.
  
• Sooo, just think about every one of the commitments you make in life. Remind yourself you are giving up something that is very, very precious to you which is called spontaneity.
• That's right, being unhappy at your job will negatively affect your job. As you negatively affect your job, you start doing a bad job. That leads to more unhappiness and the possibility you will get fired. Getting fired will make you and everyone else unhappy.This chain of events is something you are able to control. It's simple, stop hating your job or parts of your job. Nobody is forcing you to hate your job - sooo, STOP IT!! 

• if you want to get all the happiness you deserve, add sex to your agenda. Don't get too emotional about it, just enjoy it. Sex should be fun.
• Every day we do things that have nothing to do with our objective. One reason for that is we don't know what our objective is. The one I focused on was happiness. Is what I'm doing or about to do getting me closer to happiness. You can have more than one objective, but remember, there is only one number one objective, one number two objective, one number three objective, etc. etc. etc.
  Focus on the one that will make you the happiest.
  
  
  
• You are in control of doing something creative. You don't have to be great at it - you just have to enjoy it. The two most important elements in doing something creative is:
  
  
  
  

  
  

   Something you are willing to spend your time at doing because it makes you happy.

  
  

  
  

  Do it for you not the money or anybody else.

If you follow these two simple rules, you will be happy doing something creative even if you stink at it. two years ago I learned to play the guitar. I really suck at it, but rock and roll and country rock fills my heart - that makes me very happy.

• The bottom line is, never change what you want to do because they told you to change it. Never hold back from going forward with what you want to do because they think it's a bad idea. Never get caught up in the negative energy of their feedback. The reason I say this is simple:
  
  
  
  
  

  • They Don't Know Shit
  
  
• You have to be secure enough within yourself to push back. Don't take these bullshit statements because you don't want to rock the boat. Speak out and call them out. They will respect you more if you don't just roll over.
  
  
  When they try to make you believe a definitive statement without proof, say to them:
  
  
  
  

  • You're Just Making This Shit Up
    
• Happiness is the forgotten ingredient in life.  You can choose to not allow anger to take you down.  You can choose to limit the amount of time you stay angry.  You can choose to accept (maybe even love) the people or events that are making you angry.  You can choose to love life more than you love being angry. You can choose to get the help necessary to minimize the affect your buttons have on you.

ANGER, WHAT IS IT GOOD FOR - ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!

• Is there life on Mars?  Was there ever bacteria life on Mars?  Why do I give a shit?  How will my life change for the better if we find life on Mars?  Is there life on other planets in the universe?  With trillions of planets going around a crap load of suns, the very strong odds say yes.  Therefore, why do we have to search for them - let them find us!!
  1. • 2. Worrying about death doesn't have to be a bad thing as long as you're using that fear to get closer to your friends and family, working to get all the happiness you deserve, doing what you can to live longer and: 
          
          

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                  Appreciate The wonders of your life before it's too late.

• Sooo, when you're involved with an event that makes you unhappy, try saying: "what's it my business." When you're involved with someone who is doing things they shouldn't be doing and it's affecting you in a negative way, try saying: "what's it my business." 
  
  

  
  Lastly, when someone you care about comes to you and says: "I'm unhappy because my parents did a piss poor job of raising me and my sister," you should yell back at them:

"What's It Your Business"

• You can't really believe that the daily horoscope is correct for the tens of thousands of people (who are all different and born in different years) who read and react on these bullshit horoscopes. Do you realize these daily horoscopes are written by a news writer who was delivering internal mail six months before he or she was asked, by the editor, to write the daily horoscope. If you do, then I know a surgeon who is a master at performing lobotomies.  
  
  The bottom line is that if you believe in Superstitions, Horoscopes and Fortune Cookies and that helps you get through the day, I'm all in favor of it. However, just make sure you say to yourself,
  
  
  I know its bullshit, but just in case...
  
  

• Humor is a critical part of helping you achieve happiness. If these one liners don't get you to laugh you either don't have a sense of humor, you're a very unhappy depressed person or you're in a coma. I'm sure we've all had a time when we wanted to say to someone "take my wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend....Please! If you say that in a serious tone, you need to get out of your relationship. If you say that with humor, you'll put a smile of everyone's face.
  The best way to get out of a bad mood is to read, listen to or watch someone with a great sense of humor tell jokes. I know some of them will be bad, but don't focus on those. Focus on the ones that not only put a smile on your face, but get you to laugh.

Remember my quote: "the way I view my life is by the number of times I laugh."

• The answer is, worrying about something that can happen to you is easier than doing everything you can to prevent it from happen to you. But, because it's hard, too many of us just roll the dice and put our head in the sand thinking it won't happen to me.
  
   
  Starting today, for every time you would say: "oh shit is this going to happen to me?" Find at least two positive things happening and say:  "WOW, this could happen to me!"
  It's just a better way to live your life. Doing so will bring you positive energy. Doing so will be more attractive to the people around you. Doing so will make you more popular.
  My strong advice is to stop hanging out with the people who always say: "Oh Shit Is This Going To Happen To Me."

• Sooo, the real answer to not being jealous is to stop focusing on Jealousy and start focusing on being happy. That's right! Happiness is the forgotten ingredient in life. Being Jealous is easy. Being happy is harder. It takes risk. It takes sacrifice. It takes looking inside yourself and finding the love that exists. It takes giving positive energy out into the Universe.
  
  
  It takes accepting who you are and never being jealous of anyone or anything ever again.

• For those of you who religiously read my blogs, you know I'm not big on religion. This is especially true in the statements on Faith "a firm belief in something for which there is no proof" and "nothing is more important to her than her faith in God."
  
  
  To give control of my life to something or anything that I have no proof exists is not my way of creating a happy life. To say there is nothing more important in my life than a Faith in God is disregarding my primary premise that positive energy and my happiness is just a little more important than anything else in my life including God (who I never heard, saw or touched).
  
  You probably believe I'm being very cynical about Faith. Not true! Having Faith is a good thing, but there is a down side. The more Faith you have in something the less control you have of that something. I have always stated that you have more control of your happiness than you might think.
  
  
  Don't let too much Faith erode the control you have over your life.

• I know the anus and its bowel system is something you never want to talk about. However, you wouldn't have any problem telling someone you care about that you're in a bad mood because you broke your foot, have a migraine or lost your best friend. Well guess what, being constipated for a few days can be as painful as a broken foot or migraine. It can also be as depressing as losing a friend.
  
  
  Sooo, say it loud and say it proud by telling the world you're having trouble taking a shit!!

• Rock and roll brings positive energy and happy emotions all over my mind and body. It could be Country rock, classic rock, hard rock and just plain rock and roll. It's the beat that gets me. I can't stop my body from shaking to the beat. It must be something deep down inside my soul that brings out all these positive emotions.
  Can you name three things that get you into a positive mood? If you can't, try harder. If you can, make every effort to do at least one of those things every day.
  
  
  I suggest you wake up to the Rolling Stones "Start Me Up." That will get your body pumping faster that a strong cup of coffee!

• I believe generations from now will evolve to a point that the brain will be more interesting than the human body. But, if you want to be happy for a long time with someone special, I suggest you look deeper into their eyes so you can see their brain. The firm hot body is not what is sexy about a person. It's the brain. The brain controls a person's sex drive. The brain is the thing giving and getting an orgasm.
  The brain is what makes someone interesting. The brain is what makes someone kind and caring. The brain is what can make someone rich or famous. The brain is what can make someone creative. The brain is what can make someone monogamous. The brain is what you're really looking for in a committed relationship. The body can't do shit without the brain.
  Sooo, change your attitude and start looking for the most beautiful brain in your search for happiness.

• If you can accept an Asshole and still find happiness in your live, the Asshole will make your desire to be happy stronger. If you are a happy person, you can laugh at them acting out. If you are a happy person, you will be strong enough to call them out when they cross over the line. If you are a happy person, you can be sympathetic and empathetic of their need to act out because they are so unhappy.
  If you are the source of positive energy, you can change an Asshole to be more sociable and therefore, more happy.
  
  
  However, if you tried your best and they are just as big an Asshole as before, GET THE ASSHOLE OUT OF YOUR LIFE!
  
  

• Unless you've been locked up in a small room in your basement, you've been bombarded with TV and the publishers pushing these doom and gloom opinions down your throat.  So called "experts" talk about this bad stuff like they know something.  Radical TV hosts almost guarantee all this is going to happen.  Even nationally trusted publications write about worse case scenarios.
  The impact of all this doom and gloom has got to affect our mental well being.  The impact of all this doom and gloom is making many of us depressed.  The impact of all this doom and gloom is making many of us see the future as negative instead of positive. The impact of all this doom and gloom makes us angry, frustrated and scared. The impact of all this doom and gloom could lead to a self fulfilling prophecy (WAR).
  What are the facts here?  World war three is not going to happen.  We're not going to blow up the world.  We will not take away women's rights.  The middle class will always be here because they're the largest voting block and will support the candidates that make middle class friendly policies.  Drugs will always be around, but the majority will not let them affect their productivity.
  
  
• Why do we play nice and not say what we really feel?  Why doesn't the person who you're giving your bullshit response, just say: "I'm calling bullshit!"  "I know you don't want to drive to the bar.  It's OK, another time."  "I'm calling bullshit!"  "I can see in your face you don't like my new dress.  Why not just say so - I'll still love you."  "I'm calling bullshit!"  "The fact you have hardly eaten your meal tells me you don't like it.  Why not just tell me what you think it's missing.  That way I can choose if I want to fix it so other customers don't get a bad meal.  Also, if you just said so, I would get you something else to eat."
  Our answer is: "I don't want to hurt the person's feeling."  Again, I'm calling bullshit!  Giving a person honest feedback is the right thing to do.  Its information they need.  You have the power to say it in a way that won't get them to be defensive.  If they're a close friend, just tell them like it is - they'll still be your friend.
  Saying you didn't want to hurt their feelings, is really about you being concerned they won't like you anymore.  Not wanting to create conflict is you not being secure enough to share your true feelings.  You know your friend will not leave you.  Even if they get pissed off because you said something they didn't want to hear, they will still be your friend.  If they do stop being your friend, they maybe it wasn't the friendship you thought it was.
  Stop the cycle today.  Tell the truth in a way that's not offensive.  Tell the truth in a way they can hear you.  Telling the truth will set you free.  Telling the truth will get you to like yourself even more.  Liking yourself more is a big step to happiness.
  To the people who can't live with themselves unless they say something they don't really believe, I say:
  
  
  I'm Calling Bullshit!!!
  
  

• Sooo, what the hell are they afraid of.  I really don't know and I'm not sure they know.  I have never heard anyone give me a specific reason as to why being gay is wrong.  Saying the Bible says so, is leaving all your decisions to a book.  Saying it's just not right, is not an intelligent answer.  Saying that's the way I was brought up, is giving control of your life to the past.  Saying it discuss me, is saying you have no incite as to how you feel about things.
  
  
  Probably many of my readers have no problem with gay people, but some know people who do.  Probably some of my readers have no problem with gay marriage, however those who do, please ask yourself: "what am I afraid of?" "What's the worst that can happen?"  "Will anybody who loves me stop loving me?"  Will my journey to happiness crumble?"
  
  
  Being afraid of gays, Muslims, etc. etc. is no way to live your life.  Unless you have a really good reason, don’t let fears of anybody make you unhappy. 
  
  
  
  
  Loving Unconditionally Is An Important Way To Live A Life Of Happiness.

• The point is, your moral compass is your moral compass.  Religions, the Bible, your parents, your friends, etc. are not in charge of your moral compass.  If you believe you're a good person, if you believe you can live with the mistakes you've made in your life, if you can look yourself in the mirror and see a good happy person then you're not going to Hell.
  If you don't believe you're a good person.  If you don't believe you can live with the mistakes you've made in your life.  If you can't look yourself in the mirror then YOU'RE ALREADY IN HELL.
  I've made mistakes I would love to take back.  I've lied and cheated.  However, when I look into the mirror, I see a loving, caring, good and happy person.  I like myself.  I forgave my indiscretions many years ago.
  Am I going to Heaven?  I'm really not into that stuff.  I'm more focused on what my five senses tell me which is: 
  
  "If Heaven is described as a place where you're happy with great friends and love ones, then I'm already in Heaven!"

• OK, enough about me, what about you? Have you come to terms with your buttons? Do you realize reacting poorly to the button pushers are never going to make you happy? Have you done anything to find a way to either get rid of your buttons or at least not get as angry, frustrated or depressed when someone is has his finger on your button?
   
  My blogs are about happiness. Buttons are the antithesis of creating a happy life. We work hard to make a living. We work hard to raise a family. We work hard to generate good friends. We work hard to make us more attractive. We work hard at finding something that will make us happy. 
  
  Now is the time to work even harder at minimizing the number and the pain of those freak-en buttons

It has been very hard for me to choose just the few blogs to share with you. I could have selected 90 percent of them. Blogging for me has two wonderful results. One, I get something I care about off my chest. Two, by giving you incite and something to think about, I remind myself the work I have put in and the work I still have to accomplish to be the happy person I want to be.

I appreciate all of you who have read my blogs, but even though I sincerely hope they have made an impact in you life and happiness, It's all about me because;

I've Had The Time Of My Life Writing Them