Feelings

Feelings

“Iʼve learned that people will forget what youʼve said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”    

Maya Angelou

Someone said something that really hurt you to your core. That feeling never leaves you. All the crazy negative shit that happens going through a divorce. Those feelings never leave you. Someone physical attacks you. Those feelings never leave you. 

You're insecure about yourself, your health, your financial situation, etc. Those feelings never leave you even if your health gets better or your financial situation gets much better. A lot of rich people, who grew up poor, keep trying to make more money because they remember those negative feelings when they were poor.

It's hard to replace your negative feelings with your positive feelings. However, when you see someone or hear something or see something or touch something, etc. it reminds you of that negative or positive feeling. 

Sooo, as Maya Angelou said: "people will never forget how you made them feel.”  Therefore, it's time you realize how you impact others. Do you want to be the kind of person that creates a feeling in others that is positive or negative? It's easier to go negative than positive. It's takes effort to not be judgmental. It takes effort to hold your tongue when someone it saying something stupid. Chastising someone will only create a negative feeling in them and at you. 

How about being the kind of person that always says something positive when they first meet someone. How about coming home to your spouse or friend and the first words out of your mouth are positive. How about trying not to fix someone's problems when all they want is a hug. A big hug will leave them with a wonderful feeling.

You have more control over people's feelings than you think. Put yourself in their shoes. What feelings would you get if someone was dumping on you? How do you feel when someone is criticizing you? When you see them the next time do those negative feelings come to mind? If so, start being the source of creating positive feelings in others. They'll love you for it and you will love yourself for doing it.

I feel bad about some people who do everything they can to hide their feelings. I feel bad about some people who never show their true feelings. I feel bad for some people who have no feelings because of a mental condition. However, I can't let those people pull me down with them. I truly believe I'm in control of my feelings. Because of that, I have no problem sharing my feelings (positive or negative) with the person who is creating that feeling inside me.

Sooo, say it loud and say it proud: "You really hurt me by saying what you said." You really hurt my feelings by doing what you just did." "You really made me feel great by having my back." "You really made my day by giving me that big hug." "When I see you I always have a smile on my face because of your positive energy."

"Just saying I love you when I don't ask for it makes me feel so happy." "I love you back."