Body Language

Body Language

The best actors in the world use their body language to get you to feel what they are trying to project. The silent movie actors like Buster Keaton, Bela Lugosi, Charles Chaplin, Ethel Barrymore used their body language to get you to feel their pain, happiness, love, sadness, etc. Even today's best character actors and some leading actors can affect an emotion within you just by the way they display their body language.

The way many of them do this is by bring up something from their past. Bring up an emotional past enables them to cry or laugh on cue. I just watched the movie "The Theory Of Everything."  It's the story of the famous physicist Stephen Hawking. As many of you know, Hawking had motor neuron disease. The actor, Eddie Redmayne, who played Hawking constricted his body so the audience could experience what Hawking is enduring to this day.

His body language was done so brilliantly he became Stephen Hawking. I have seen documentaries on Doctor Hawking and I could hardly tell the difference. This was great acting and might just win him an award.

Sooo, what the hell is this blog all about? It's trying to tell you that your body language is saying more to others and even yourself than you think. The difference is you're not acting. Your body language is describing how you think and feel even if the words out of your mouth say something different.

If you try to stop your body language from saying what is going on inside you, then you're acting. If you try to mask your true feelings by putting on a brave face, you're acting. If you try to laugh off your sadness, disappointment, fear or anger, you're acting.

Since most of us are not great at acting, you're not fooling the people you're communicating with. They know the words coming out of your mouth are bullshit when they see your body language showing them something different.

My suggestion is to stop trying to act. Let your body tell the story. Match your words with exactly how you feel. What's the worst that can happen? Is it better to be viewed as a person who is willing to show their emotions or is it better to be viewed as someone who is hiding something.

My strong belief is to never try to hide your true feelings. You may think you're getting away with something, but you're not. All trust goes out the door when others view you as someone who is hiding something from them. All trust goes out the door when others believe you're bullshitting them. All trust goes out the door when the words spewing out of your mouth don't come close to your: 

 Body Language