Are You OK
How many times have you watched a movie or a TV show or even reading a book where someone gets' beat-up and left for dead? When that happens, someone always comes to the rescue and says to that person - Are You OK?
The beat-up person always responds: "I'm OK." Well, If I were that person, I would reply: Fuck no, I'm not OK - do I look OK? If you think that only happens in the movies - guess again. The other day, I hit the top of my head on my medicine cabinet. My wife was there and the first words out of her mouth was - Are You OK? Hell no, I'm not OK. My head hurts like hell and it's bleeding.
It's not like my wife was being inconsiderate, She was just repeating what everyone I know (including her parents) says. It's just a normal reaction.
To the person who is in pain, Are You OK, seems like they don't give a shit and that makes them angry. To the person saying Are You OK, it's just their way of say I'm concerned about you.
Sooo, when that happens to you, take a step back and appreciate that the person saying Are You OK cares a great deal about you. If you are the person saying, Are You OK, STOP IT! Just say: "that looks really bad, what can I do to help you?" Or, you can say something positive like: Well at least you're not dead.
If you think stop saying, Are You OK is easy, think again. It's a learned response. It will take many tries before you get the right words for the situation. The wrong words are;
Are You OK
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