Life Is Just A Bunch Of Moments

"Life is just a bunch of moments"  Mel Brooks in the movie "Life Stinks"


Isn't that a great line.  What a great way to view your life.  Some moments are great and some moments stink.  However, either way, they're just moments.  Having a child is just a moment.  Getting married is just a moment.  Getting a divorce is just a moment.  Having a fight with your friend is just a moment.  Having make-up sex is just a moment.


Your life is a culmination of moments.  We tend to spend more time remembering the bad moments.  We too often take for granted the good moments.  If you look at your life in the aggregate, I would bet that most of the people who read my blogs have had more good moments than bad moments.  Therefore, most of you have had and are having a good life.


Why is it that too many of us don't look at their life that way?  Mostly because, the bad moments hurt more than the good moments feel great.  Mostly because, too many of us focus on the bad moments.  Mostly because, we have too many friends and family that talk too much about their bad moments.  Mostly because, we listen to them.


What if every time you think of a bad moment, you force yourself to think about a good moment.  What if you decide to at least consider your life a push - equal good and bad moments.  What if you stop describing your life as good or bad.  What if you wipe away your memory and only look at your life as it is today.  


If you've been reading my blogs you should know by now you have control of what you do today.  Are you going to make it a good moment or are you going to make it a bad moment? Are you going to let the outside world make today a bad moment or are you waiting for them to make it a good moment.


What if today turns out to be a bad moment in your life.  Do you believe that tomorrow will balance it out with a good moment?  It's a lot easier to accept a bad day when you believe tomorrow will be better.


I think it's time you write down the culmination of your life.  That's right, you need to write it down.  On one side write the good moments and on the other side write the bad moments.  I'm sure you'll have no problem writing down the bad moments so push yourself to remember all the good moments.  Start with the big ones (like marriage, broken leg, etc.) then write down all the small ones.


What you'll find out is most of the bad moments are the big ones and most of good moments are the small ones.  However, the sum of the small good moments will either balance out or overcome the bad moments.


It's critical for your happiness to view your life in the aggregate.  If you do, you'll be surprised it isn't as bad as you probably think it was and it is today.  At worst, it will be even.  

Even is great because today and tomorrow will be good moments if you want them to be.