Someone Like You

"Someone Like You" by Adele

"I heard that you're settled down

That you found a girl and you're married now

I heard that your dreams came true

Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you

Old friend, why are you so shy?

Ain't like you to hold back or hide from the light

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited 

But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it

I had hoped you'd see my face

And that you'd be reminded that for me, it isn't over

Never mind, I'll find someone like you

I wish nothing but the best for you, too

Don't forget me, I beg

I remember you said

Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead 

Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead, yeah

You know how the time flies

Only yesterday was the time of our lives

We were born and raised in a summer haze

Bound by the surprise of our glory days

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited 

But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it

I had hoped you'd see my face

And that you'd be reminded that for me, it isn't over

Never mind, I'll find someone like you

I wish nothing but the best for you, too

Don't forget me, I beg

I remember you said

Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead, yeah

Nothing compares, no worries or cares

Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made

Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

Never mind, I'll find someone like you

I wish nothing but the best for you 

Don't forget me, I beg

I remember you said

Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"

This is a very emotional song for some of you.  When we were young our parents called it puppy love.  But to us our relationship with someone was serious.  Our emotions were all over the map.  Our endorphin's were raging.  Our testosterone was controlling us.  Losing someone we deeply loved really hurt - even though we didn't understand love as we do today.


Even at a young age, many of us became bitter and hated the person who stopped loving us the way we loved them.  Very few of us felt:

"Never mind, I'll find someone like you

I wish nothing but the best for you 

Don't forget me, I beg

I remember you said

Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"

Guess what, now we're adults and nothing has changed.  Too many of us are still bitter and hold hatred in our hearts for the person who stopped loving us the way we loved them.  We resent and say:

"I heard that you're settled down

That you found a girl and you're married now

I heard that your dreams came true

Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you"

What is this bitterness, hatred and resentment getting us - ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.  The best way to end a relationship is to stay friends.  However, it takes two baby - it takes two.  If you wait for the other person to be the one, you're not looking out for your happiness.  If you really did love this person and would still like them to be part of your life, you first have to find out why you still want to be friends.


Friends are people that wish you well and will be there for you when times are bad.  If that's what you want from the person who ended the relationship and you're willing to do the same for him or her - be the one who takes the first step even though:


                        "Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"


If you want to be friends because you are holding out hope that he or she will realize you were always the one and:

"I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited 

But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it

I had hoped you'd see my face

And that you'd be reminded that for me, it isn't over"

This reason for wanted to be friends, will destroy you.  You will not even try to find someone new.  Your love one will feel your pressure.  If your love one is a mensch, he or she will push you away so you don't get hurt.  Eventually this friendship will turn into the things you were trying to avoid in the first place - bitterness, hatred and resentment.


If you ever had a love that hurt so bad when it ended - you're one of the lucky ones.  Having loved and lost is a blessing.  Too many people have never loved at all.  It doesn't matter if we are talking about a deep love for a friend or family member or any other person.  Being able to fall in love, even if it's for a short period of time, is wonderful if you can embrace that experience with positive energy.


Being able to love once and not blame the other person or, most importantly, yourself will enable you to love again and again.  Being willing to avoid putting up barriers to protect yourself will allow you to love again and again.

All love is happiness.  Loving and losing can still be happiness if you love yourself more.