A Loss

A Loss

The crappy thing about getting older is you accumulate more loses. My dad was a big strong man with a bright brain, a great sense of humor and never angry at his harsh life. At eighty he got Parkinson disease. I would fly in to Philly a few times a year to see him. Seeing my father failing and angry about his condition really depressed me. I would go to my friend's house after leaving him - crying and all stressed out. There was a relief when he died because he was no longer suffering.

My sister fought Cancer for four years and went into remission. Six months later the Cancer came back and she died at fifty four years old. I hated losing her because she was so brave to fight this horrible disease for all those years. 

My Mom was a hoot and had a good life. She was a happy person and loved life up until the day she died at eighty nine of tongue Cancer. I was happy she didn't have to suffer long. I wear her wedding ring on my pinky finger so I can remember her happiness and her love of people and life.

Since I'm going to live until the year 2038, I'll probably have more heart breaking losses. The thing is losses come in many flavors. Losing your house due to financial hardship or storm can be just as bad. For most of us, losing a pet is as devastating as losing a Human Being. This is especially true when you're the one who has to make the decision to put the pet you love so much down.

Sooo, life is full of loses. NOW WHAT? Take it from me, it's OK to grieve. It's OK to feel a huge sense of loss. It's OK to let your feelings out by crying or howling at the moon. However, it's not OK to get angry. It's not OK to take it out on others. It's not OK to completely lose your love of life and the pursuit of happiness.

Take your time to do a few things:

*  Write down everything you loved about the person, pet, house, ETC.

*  Now is the time to see and/or talk with the people who you know love you.

*  Now is the time to fill your days with meaningful productive efforts.

*  Now is the time to put yourself in first position above everything and anyone else.

*  Now is the time to love yourself unconditionally.

* And lastly:

Now Is The Time To Follow Your Happiness No Matter Where It Leads