Ask The Lonely
"Ask The Lonely" by The Four Tops
"When you feel that need
To make it all alone,
Remember no one is thinking of,
Going alone
Just ask the lonely...
They know the hurt and pain,
Of losing a love, you can never regain
Just ask the lonely
The young and foolish laugh at love
So they run away...
Confident and sure that fate
Will bring another love their way
But ask the lonely....
How vainly a heart can yearn,
For losing a love that will never return
Just ask the lonely....
They'll tell you
They'll tell you a story of sadness,
A story too hard to believe...
They'll tell you the loneliest one is me
Just ask the lonely
Ask me...
I'm the loneliest one you'll see"
During my first divorce those last three line were me: "Just ask the lonely, ask me, I'm the loneliest one you'll see." My wife hated me. My oldest son hated me. My best friends were cold to me. I lived almost an hour away from my kids. I was new in LA and didn't have any friends - I just had a few business acquaintances.
I felt really lonely. Three things kept me glued together. I was really good at my job and was respected by my employees and my management. My job was my salvation because, at the time, I needed it to help me feel good enough. I believed everybody else thought I was a loser.
I met a woman who believed in me. Juanita and I tried to have a sexual relationship, but when that didn't work, she stayed my friend. She and I were really close and did many things together. She loved me just the way I was (which was all screwed up) and that made me feel less lonely.
A friend and his wife reached out to me. Mark and Patty were not my best friends then (we are now) and it surprised me that they were there for me. Their attitude was, they were not going to choose sides, like my best friends did. Their caring support let me know I was not alone.
If you are reading my blogs, you know I got through those lonely times and went on to a happy life.
Some people feel lonely even though that have many friends. Loneliness is a form of depression. If there are times you feel lonely talk to someone. Don't let it linger because it could become a chronic problem if you procrastinate. That someone should not be your friends or family because they will not understand. They will tell you they love you and you shouldn't feel this way. Talking to someone who has been there and recovered will help. Talking to someone who is trained to help you will also help. I prefer someone who has been there.
The worst thing you can do is try to stop yourself from feeling lonely or blue. Your body/brain is telling you something. It could be a chemical problem or a physiological problem. It could be minor or serious. Don't try to ignore it - don't try to stop it - talk to someone.
That someone might help you focus on what you have, the people who love you, the good things you have done in your life, the things and people that bring you positive energy, help you to define a positive future and tell you to do things that are fun and make you laugh.
It could take you an hour, a week, a month or a year to get over that lonely/blue feeling. The amount of time it takes is not important. What is critical is that you don't give up. What is critical is that you believe this too will pass. What is critical is that you trust the person you are talking to and do what he or she says.
Life is great. Living life is fabulous. You have a lot of living life left. During your life you will and already have had ups and downs. If everything was perfect in life it would be a boring life.
Going through thrill of victory and the agony of defeat and then coming out the other side a happy person, is a fantastic life.
I felt really lonely. Three things kept me glued together. I was really good at my job and was respected by my employees and my management. My job was my salvation because, at the time, I needed it to help me feel good enough. I believed everybody else thought I was a loser.
I met a woman who believed in me. Juanita and I tried to have a sexual relationship, but when that didn't work, she stayed my friend. She and I were really close and did many things together. She loved me just the way I was (which was all screwed up) and that made me feel less lonely.
A friend and his wife reached out to me. Mark and Patty were not my best friends then (we are now) and it surprised me that they were there for me. Their attitude was, they were not going to choose sides, like my best friends did. Their caring support let me know I was not alone.
If you are reading my blogs, you know I got through those lonely times and went on to a happy life.
Some people feel lonely even though that have many friends. Loneliness is a form of depression. If there are times you feel lonely talk to someone. Don't let it linger because it could become a chronic problem if you procrastinate. That someone should not be your friends or family because they will not understand. They will tell you they love you and you shouldn't feel this way. Talking to someone who has been there and recovered will help. Talking to someone who is trained to help you will also help. I prefer someone who has been there.
The worst thing you can do is try to stop yourself from feeling lonely or blue. Your body/brain is telling you something. It could be a chemical problem or a physiological problem. It could be minor or serious. Don't try to ignore it - don't try to stop it - talk to someone.
That someone might help you focus on what you have, the people who love you, the good things you have done in your life, the things and people that bring you positive energy, help you to define a positive future and tell you to do things that are fun and make you laugh.
It could take you an hour, a week, a month or a year to get over that lonely/blue feeling. The amount of time it takes is not important. What is critical is that you don't give up. What is critical is that you believe this too will pass. What is critical is that you trust the person you are talking to and do what he or she says.
Life is great. Living life is fabulous. You have a lot of living life left. During your life you will and already have had ups and downs. If everything was perfect in life it would be a boring life.
Going through thrill of victory and the agony of defeat and then coming out the other side a happy person, is a fantastic life.
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