I Can't Keep It In

I Can't Keep It In

If you're a dirty thinking person like me, you probably think this blog is a nasty little blog about sex. Well, I must admit that even at my age, I have trouble keeping it in my pants. That's because my wife is so beautiful and sexy and I'm just a horny dirty old man.  However, sadly to say, this blog is not about the snake in my pants.

Did you ever yell out something to someone or a group that you wished you hadn't said anything? Maybe you were frustrated? Maybe you were angry? Maybe you're insecure about a subject and the person or group just happened to press that button. 

Many of us have had that experience. Some of us have never done that in their life. The simple solution to the ones that have blurted out something they just wished they could take back is: KEEP ON BLURTING. After your loud expressive statement, take three long breaths, get your thoughts and your shit together and explain to the person or the group why you said what you said.

The ones who hold it in are never going to be happy people. If they hold it in too long they will either explode and shit all over everybody or they will just leave with no explanation to anyone. Those people will never have real friends - everyone (including a spouse) will always be nothing more to them than an acquaintance. Neither party will feel good about that.

When something has to come out - let it all hang out. The people who love you will still love you. They might be mad at you for a brief time, but love and friendship always wins out. It's important that the people you know well understand the impact their words have on you. They would rather have it out with an explanation (even if they disagree with you) then have you keep it inside. Keeping it inside isn't fooling them. They can see by your body language you're not happy and pissed off.

"I Hate You!" You don't really hate that person; you just need to let them know how their comments are hurting you. You will kiss and hug a few minutes later.  "Get Out!" You don't want them to get out; you just need some space NOW so you can deal with whatever is hurting you. "I Never Loved You!" Bullshit, you wouldn't have been with this person for so long if you didn't love him or her at one time in your relationship. Maybe you don't love that person anymore. If that's the case then by blurting out those words will open a dialog between the two of you on what to do next.

Sooo, if you relate to my first paragraph, you're my dirty disgusting hero.  If you relate to the real purpose of this blog, the best thing you can do for yourself or the other people in your life is to say:

I Can't Keep It In.