Positive Events That Impacted Your Life

 

 

When I mentor people I always ask them to write things down, it's the best way to enable them to carefully think about what they know or what they want to do in the future. Almost everything I ask them to write down is positive things. Remember, positive energy begets positive energy - negative energy begets negative energy. Focusing on negative things by writing them down is self-destructive.

Focusing on the positive will give you a good start toward taking charge of your happiness. Therefore, I would like you to take a few hours of your life and write down events that impacted your life in a positive way.  Here's my list:

 

• At 10 my father asked me to help out in his small hamburger joint. This had a very positive impact on my life because of many things.
   

  *  I learned how to communicate with adults 

  *  I learned how to appreciate money 

  *  I felt a sense of accomplishment when my shift was over 

  *  I got to respect my father more because of his work ethic 

  *  Although socially I didn't feel good enough, In my fathers store I was a star

   
• At almost 16 I had intercourse with a girl two years older than I. I always liked girls (even at five) and they always liked me. I kissed a lot and got to first base a few times. My very few girlfriends and I would kiss and rub our bodies together. I had many organisms with my pants on. The organisms were great, but I could have done without the sticky underwear.
  
  My first time having intercourse with this girl was a disaster (see previous blog). However, after she got me to slow down, the next few times were great for both of us. This gave me confidence around women. This made me feel I was in sexual control when I had the chance to be with other women as I got older.
  
• At 18 I had friends who were in a much higher economic class than I. These friends had good jobs or were in college (most of my friends were older than I). They liked me and thought I was bright. This gave me confidence that I could compete in a world with people much more educated and well off then I. These friends were not snobs. They were just nice upper middle class people who knew their shit stunk just like the rest of us.
  
  Being with them made me want to have a career and the money that goes with it. They had many more options in life because of their money and I wanted the same.  If I had stayed in my old poor neighborhood I might not of had the life I was able to create. A few of us got out of the old neighborhood, but most didn't amount to anything in life.
  
• At 21 my company made me a manager. Although that created major challenges and stress in my life, I realized I was trusted by my management because they believed I was an excellent team leader. I looked at management as a profession and got great pleasure helping my employees grow in their job and eventually get promoted. This was a major change in my attitude toward business. I became a fantastic negotiator of both my employees and upper management.
  
  When I went into Sales and Mergers and Acquisitions, my negotiating skills made me one of the best. That really helped my confidence and the great feeling inside that I was good enough. From a business standpoint I really liked myself. When I became an executive, I knew I could compete with the big boys.
  
• At 34 I divorced my wife. This caused a great deal of grief, many financial problems and much stress.  However, if I didn't make this major decision in my life, I would have wound up in a loveless marriage with both of us just tolerating each other the rest of our lives.
  
  This decision worked out better for both of us. My ex became a business woman running her own business. The world of social options opened up for me which would never have happened had I stayed in the marriage.
  
• At 39 I went to a therapist. Bob changed everything for me. This was the best gift I could have ever given myself. After a year I was able to realize that I really had control of my happiness. The tools Bob gave me helped greatly in making choices in my life that were for happiness not for money, ego and what I thought I needed to do to make others like me. I would not be the person I am today without deciding to see Bob.
  
• At 40 I met and fell in love with my wife Ellen. Ellen has impacted my life in so many positive ways. For the first time in my life I truly understood love. I really felt loved. I now have a soul mate that is so wonderful when we do things together. Ellen didn't create my happiness, but she made a major impact in enhancing my happiness. The combination of what Bob gave me and what Ellen keeps giving me has made me the happy person I am today.
  
• At 62 I retired from British Telecom. What a life changing event. I have almost total control of my life. I do what I want to do when I want to do it. Everyone should save their resources and plan on retirement no later than 62. It's the freedom you always wanted. I'm 68 now and these are the best years of my life.
  
  One thing to remember, if you are a negative unhappy person, retirement won't help. You'll just be a retired unhappy person with no job to go to. If you are a positive happy person, retirement will be a significant enhancement to your happiness.

Sooo, there it is - my positive impacting events that have shaped my life. It's now on paper (or electronically) for all to see. It's burned into my brain. If I ever have a bad day, I can reread this blog over and over again. That in itself will change my bad day to a good day.

Maybe you don't think it's important, but I disagree. It's very important for you to realize the positive events and decisions that have happened to you throughout your life.

 

Please, pretty please, take the time now to write down your life events. Remember just the positive ones. The negative ones will just bring you down.